MY IDSR.... Unconditonal, no matter what you do, forever and a day, because ur u luv

When i got tagged i had to sit and think for a while cause sometimes i feel theres not alot of good that i am passing onto my kids(otherwise im sure they would be different kids)........so trying to think of even one thing that i had done right was

not easy...... But finally i got a hammer from heaven to the noggin and realised my one thing right is that I love my kids without conditions...... Totally.... forever...No matter what!!!!

UNCONDITONAL LOVE: Love freely given and not restrained by conditions; especially important during childhood development in order to stabilize physical and spiritual wellbeing, and to promote the cycle of nurture and love through the generations (Meaning from www.bioscience-bioethics.org/u.htm)

Alot of people feel that loving someone unconditionally opens you up for hurt.... Maybe but there are so many things you get back in return..... My pop used to tell me that i should never love anybody cause people use  that love to hurt you.... I believed this for a long time till i had kids...The day i heard my sons heartbeat i was smitten...the day he was placed on my tummy after i gave birth he had me completely and missie moo was the same the day she was born...Totally in love .........

Now i know that Having unconditional love for my children doesnt  mean that i am allowing myself to be walked over though at times it may look as if thats what they are doing!! It means that i love my children, flaws and all. It means that I accept them totally. I don't expect them to change for me.Their self-esteem grows with the no conditions love that says, "I love you, no matter who you are or what you do." I accept them for who they are, regardless of their strengths, difficulties, temperament, or abilities. For me this means showing them daily. how i feel so that they will pass this on into the lives of their own children.....This means lots of cuddles (this is alot harder to do with master 5 who only allows touching on his terms)  and reminding them how much I love them (again my son will sometimes say to me i know this so why do you have to keep telling me?).... I Often take the time to say to my son "do you wan' t to know something?" and he always replies "yes  mummy i know.... you love me".....

My sons school always says its the behaviour thats upset them not the child and i use this now myself..... I tell my son that its what he did and not who he is that has upset me.....that i still love him regardless of what he does.....All i want  for my kids is for them to have it better than i did...i want them to do the things i never took the time to do and go the places i could only dream off......I want them to know that its my mission in life to protect them at all costs...to love my kids no matter what...

Its so worth the heartache we go thru as parents watching as our kids get hurt and fall down ...every time it happens i want to be there to pick up the pieces and catch them before they fall. but kids need to make their own mistakes and learn from them just as we did when we were younger........ Really all i have to do is let my kids know that i am there in the sidelines cheering them on and loving them completely and ready to carry them when life is too tough.....

Even when my kids do the wrong thing i still love them...when my son hurt himself..... i was angry and hurt and upset and wanted to scream out and yell but thru it all, the one thing that was constant and unending was that i love him..... he can hit me strike out, hurt himself, whatever but he always knows that mummy loves him......How i feel is not something that i can ever explain...... there are no words big enough to describe the love i have for my babies.....Its a personal experience that all parents have with their own kids......

So if in years to come I am asked what one thing did my kids learn and know and believe  then i can say that they grew up assured that mummy loves them......No ifs, no buts, no maybes.... ......with my daughter i blow her a kiss throughout the day and she blows one back...then she will come running to me and say "i love you mummy so much"......she is able to be open with her love cause her mummy has shown her thats its okay...

.Its important to let our kids know that we love them at all times...not just when they are good or when they do what we ask them....We need to take the time to tell them we love them no matter what at all times of the day....

Have you said I love you to your kids today?