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How could I lie to her or her brothers?!
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Would I lie to you? IDSR

mcm by mcm Young Parent(February 2007) (rank 4th)
I was thinking of Tracey's blog about IDSR - I did something right - about the things we do great as parents. This is what I think is my strong point with my children. I am honest with them. If they ask a question and I answer truthfully. For example, if
I don't know I may say, "Sorry I am not sure we should find out together"  Or if they ask an awkward question I will answer as simply as i can. It also opens up opportunity for communication as I  learn to talk with them. I don't appreciate being lied to so I don't lie to them.
This is a personal decision. I like my children to have an imagination but I wont tell them to be good for Santa for example. My daughter for example who turned 7 on Saturday is a huge fan of cartoons and fantasy television. She also loves magic tricks. She is amazed by the illusion of magic tricks yet she knows there has to a secret to them. A few weeks back she was doing the disappearing leg trick! She then showed me how it is done. She is like me - doesn't  want to leave people thinking its real.
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emmie
February 2008 | emmie
Re: Would I lie to you? IDSR

great advice i agree here i never lie to my kids i hate being lied to i would not do it to them

Thanks for sharing

Emz x



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KathrynR1402
March 2007 | KathrynR1402
honesty

well done!

Like you I've not told my daughter to be good for Santa (she asked me if it would be Santa mummy or Santa daddy filling her stocking last Christmas. Surprised, i asked her how she knew "you told me" "oh, did i, I forgot!") as i want her to be able to trust me completely when I talk about what I DO believe in, not wonder if Im pretending again.

I also need to be able to trust her version of events, so I ram it home that if I know she always tells me the truth about things, I'll know who to believe  when her friends complain shes hit them, again. Shes 4 and we still have a way to go on that one!



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tracey
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | tracey
Good work!
Sounds like you're doing a great job!


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nell18-3
4.00 (Good) | February 2007 | nell18-3
Honesty
I agree with you about Honesty
After all how can we expect them to be honest with us if we aren't honest with them
I did encourage them to believe in Santa and the Tooth Fairy though as IMO that is just indulging a childs fantasty and I never had any problems with my children accusing me of lies when they found out it was a fantasty
The children know I abhor lies as my ex is a compulsive liar so if they ask me a question and I answer they know they are getting the truth from me and so are always satisfied.
xxx


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