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jennibubs by jennibubs Speaking(February 2007) (rank 500+)

Remember not to sweat the small stuff! Unless it involves broken bones, blood, personal property keep out of children's squabbles. They will be friends again before you have finished ranting and raving.

Just an update to what I mean by this. When your kids are fighting at home do'nt

stress over the squabbling they will sort it out. By the same do'nt let it get to heated. It is very hard to stay out of it when you are tired, trying to cook dinner etc. They are normaly letting off steam from school, playgroup. Also The advice was from a teacher who meant kids will sort out their friendship groups for themselves it all part of learning. I have only gotten involved in the kids friendship group 2 and they have the best friends you can imagine. They have to learn to make choices about their friends. I also have bigger kids so this may have a bearing on the advice.   

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monyq83
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | monyq83
Great advice
Its so true, whats teh point sweating it out over the little stuff? Great morals to live by, well done.


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nell18-3
4.00 (Good) | February 2007 | nell18-3
I think I know what you are trying to say but......
I have just emailed you trying to help you with this advice
The way this is worded it looks like you are letting the children deal with their own issues and I don't think thats what you are meaning, Of course none of us worry about the little things but a destroyed self esteem is as harmful if not more than broken bones so what may seem a little thing to us, is generally not a little thing to the child
All the best, keep writing
xx


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      exquisite-flower
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | exquisite-flower
I think I know what you are trying to say but......
Good on you nell.  I agree with what you have said here, and on that note I also agree with what the article is trying to say. 
Peace
EF.x 


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Wendigo
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | Wendigo
Yeah... but...

Sure, we shouldn't sweat over the little things, ans you are right, they will be friends again tomorrow, however...

If we don't at least step in occassionally to teach our kids a little bit of direction in how they should best handle certain situations, we can very quickly find our children being pigeon-holed into particular social roles of the group bully, or the one to pick on, the one to ignore, the one to con easily, the group snob, the group miss popular, etc.  These problems are bad enough between kids, but they can evolve into hell on earth for the parents and the children alike if we, as adults, don't teach them at such a young age what sort of behaviour is and isn't appropriate.

Besides, that little squabble will turn into a bloodbath if you ignore it long enough.  Isn't prevention better than cure?



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      angelmum
February 2007 | angelmum
Yeah... but...
I asked a question regarding my son having a little fight with a girl at his school, I did the right thing by sitting him down and giving him correct direction on what to do if it happens again, unfortunately this girl is a big girl and is now picking on him and his little friend, he came home on Friday in tears and also today, my next move is to let his teacher know what is going on so they can deal with the matter, I don't believe bullying of any kind should be left no matter how small it is.  So no they are not friends again instead it is getting worse


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           jennibubs
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | jennibubs
Yeah... but...
I agree with you. What I was saying is that the small stuff at home is not worth getting stressed over. That advice was given to me by a teacher he was saying that they will sort out their own problems. I'm not talking about bullying just the bickering that all kids do with each other. I was bullied at school so I know what it is like. They have to learn to fight their own battles and sort out things for themselves. I do't mean the big issues. Thanks for your comment. xxx   


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