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is someone abusing your child??

Anonymous Author (February 2007)

 

well i was an unfortunate mother, who was told a secret by my daughter, but then again, i'm not unfortunate in one way, because she told me.. i was always sure to ask my little one.. "if anyone ever touches you.. you make sure you tell me"

and when my little one was in kindergarten she told me about her uncle, doing some rather odd things to her. I was in total shock, as her uncle was only 13. 13 yrs old and doing things like this.. i dont know about most people but i never would have imagined something like this happening.... i was always weiry of older men but not so much with other children.... my advice here would be to always make sure your children (Boys and Girls )always know that they can come to you and tell you anything, Anything at all. God knows how far it would have went if i hadnt been told...

Signs to look for :

*Withdrawal from normal activities.

*Changes in appetite.

*Nightmares

*Acting out, in ways that are unusual for your childs nature.

*Talking about things that your child, would not know about.

And one more thing, dont ever leave your child in a situtaion where something could happen, not even for five minutes...

AND ...ALWAYS trust your own instincts.... they are usually right....

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RebeccaDorant
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | RebeccaDorant
child abuse
this subject always worries me because my boy is so friendly and does not have the experience of dealing with people who are not friends... i'm honestly not sure how to approch this topic with him as i am not sure what is age appropiate and intelegence appropiate for him... anywaiz thanx for this article it has brought it to the front of my mind and will be discussed with him soon.


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jaxsycam
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | jaxsycam
trust them
trust your little ones word always as kids dont lie about this sort of thing as they dont know what can happen, this happened to me at 3 and i still remember it. just always let your kids know you are there no matter who it is who hurts them, trust them as you are there world.


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bubba76
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | bubba76
Trust your childrens word
Thank you for writing this.....as a mother of 4 boys l never thought it would happen to one of my kids but it did, when my oldest son was 4 / 5 years old his uncle did the same thing to him.....we spent many of years at Gatehouse at the Royal Childrens Hospital in Melbourne. The police never changed his uncle because he too was under age, now my son is 14 years old and looks at the world differently......not in a bad way but in a good way he looks out for his younger brothers and other children if he see anything going on he tells now. l tought my my boys to talk and tell and l hate to say this but punch of kick that person if male in the privates and go find a adult they can trust. If you ever need to talk message me, l will listern.


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | cazza
trust your instinct
Thank you as this will help me more to speak to my little girls on this subject... As my 7 year is already asking those sort of questions...


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exquisite-flower
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | exquisite-flower
So sad
Teenagers naturally experiment and they don't always think before they do so.  Some think it is ok to do things in front of smaller children.  i had to stop contact with my friends family because her two teenage girls were exploring each others bodies and using language that my daughter at 18 months should not have been aware of, let alone coming to me to explain it to her!!!   I don't think they ever forgave me, because i could not bring myself to talk to them about it.  I am still sickened and angry by it.  I removed her from that situation immediately.  Life goes on, and healing happens.  All we can do is be vigilant. 
Peace
EF.x 


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