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4.66 (Highly recommend) from 93 votes (1760 Visits)

What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

(March 2007) (rank 74th)

What would be like if one of my sons came up to me and told me they where going to be a father at a teenage age. l think freak out for awhile then take a deep breath and l remember what it was like for my parents/the in laws

to find out me and my hubby where pregnant those 14 years ago.

Here are some helpful tips:

1.Stop and listern to what your teenager has to say - see what there point of veiw is about the pregnancy and what they would like to do.

2.Remember to love your teenager - no matter what dont forget to let them know you love them and support them no matter what.

3.Seek medical care for them - make sure they get all the medical advice/care they need.

4. Encourage your teenager to stay at school - the best thing they could do for themselves is stay at school and get a education.

5.Talk to them about birth control - make sure they know about the choices of birth control out there and if the case one fail and thats how they conceived help them with the choice of another form of birth control.

6. Family talk - have a family talk with the teenagers and the parents of the other teenager to get everyones point of view.

Just remember no matter what the choice is for the teenage pregnancy always love your child not matter what , they are people too.

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ADVICE RATING

4.66 (Highly recommend) from 93 votes

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	August 2008 \| nabutters

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

my mum freaked out big time when i told her....i needed her not have her reject me.....

was very hard,great article......

thanks naomi xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2008 \| Sammie1974

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

I was a young mum. I had my 1st daughter when I was 16, and had another daughter at 17. I remember my mum screaming "OMG i'm too young to be a grandmother!!!" But she handled it after awhile. She was with me every step of the way even to the point of sharing the gas with me while I was in labour.

Don't judge your kids ... is my advise. Put yourselves in their shoes.

Sam

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2008 \| whome

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

i think that no matter what age we stand by them,, our love is unconditional,, great articlexxshar

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2008 \| firstimemum07

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

i was 17 yrs old when i fell pregnant with my daughter, i rang mum to ask her what it mean when it had a plus sign on the test and she said ur pregnant and im like i don't no, i didn't know what she would say when i told her but she seemed happy after the dr confirmed it, and my mum traveled all the way from victoria, Australia to Mt gambier, South Australia, which is roughly 8hrs away just to see my baby been born which is her first grandkid. it was alot easier to have her there as she knew what she was doing. lol lol . after my mum shad 10 kids.
If my daughter told me she was pregnant when she is a teen i would help her through the choices she makes and help her through all the hard times.

thanks. Great advice hope it all comes in handy to someone.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2008 \| jmrmumstheword

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

my mum was brilliant when i told her i was pregnant with my first at 18, i didn t think she would handle it aswell as she did but boy did i poop my pants the whole time all i did was cry lol.

this is great advice and too see it from the other persons perspective is a great way to understand it better, and to keep your kids close and help them through what is going to be a challenging time for them, i know if my girls come home and say "mum im pregnant" firstly i might need to have 000 on speed dial but apart from that i plan to support them even if i think they are making a mistake, i would never get in the way of their decision but i would try and guide them through it the right way

thanks, great work

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| OzBinky

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

I went through this myself last year....

All you can do is support the choice they make - even if you don't like it.

I took the news well with my son......

my step-daughter.....man, that was another story. I didn't take the news well - at all. Thing is, it is different for all parents and there are going to be times when you sit back and all you can do is sigh and hope for the best.

Cheers
OB

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| November 2007 \| angelicarose

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

i havent really thought about that side of the story before, thats 4 sharing

xoxo

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| amie

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

this thought hadn't crossed my mind till now....maybe because my baby girl is 2 weeks from becoming a teenager

thanks for sharing

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| 2yung2bgrandma

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

I just got the call last night! My 17 year old son is going to become a father. This last year we have had some real strain on our relationship and 5 mths ago I allowed him to live full time with his father (whom he has not had a relationship with in a very long time). He (my son) has only spoken to me a hand full of times over the last few months, but we were making progress. I can only think that this is gods way of getting us back on track. All I can do is support him and let him know I am here for him. Not sure of the next step, but I'll be there. By the way due date is March...

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| cstallan1973

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

EVEN THOUGH I,VE NEVER PERSONALLY EXPERIENCED THIS I KNOW SHOWING AS MUCH SUPPORT AS A FAMILY IS VERY CRUCIAL TO SOMEONE SO YOUNG.IT MUST BE SO HARD MAKING ONES DECISIONS AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE WITHOUT ANY GUIDANCE OR HELP-IF MY 2 DAUGHTERS WERE EVER IN THE SAME POSITION ID BE THERE FOR THEM EACH STEP OF THE WAY WHAT ELSE IS THERE TO DO?I DON,T BELIEVE IN ABORTION SO I WOULD TRY AND SUPPORT THEM THE ONLY WAY I KNOW HOW.I SEEM TO BE DOING AN ALRIGHT JOB AT THE MOMENT I THINK AND I TOO AM LEARNING SOMETHING NEW EACH DAY.ISNT THAT WHAT IS PARENTING IS ALL ABOUT?

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| Libby24

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

I was still a teenager when i had my 1st, granted i was 19 but I had a few friends at school go through this. I think having great parents is better than what I got. I know that my hubby and myself would freak out if this happened to us, but we would be there every step of the way for them.

great advice.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| merlin0903

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

thanks for sharing these wonderful tips with us, you have some really great ideas there

hugs and kisses

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| naomi-istoriia

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

i am 15. i currently go to school. im in year 10. my two friends are now mothers, and i have just discovered i have fallen pregnant with the boy i love. i know my mum isnt a calm woman and im really scared to tell her.
i dont know what to do and i am writing an english speech on the topic of parental support of teenage pregnancies.
i just thought i should get my feelings out.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| bubba76

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

Thank you for sharing this with us.....l am not sure if you have tried to speak with your parents yet about the pregnancy. But if you feel that they might go crazy over it.....then l suggust you either get your family doctor or school socail worker to sit with you and your parents, just so if you are afraid it might get alittle nosiey and you need that extra person there to keep things clamer. You have to remember as well that your boyfriend and his parents will have to know as well. Remember as well its your choice what you would like to do......good luck in the choice you make and l wish you all the best.

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	October 2007 \| amie

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

be strong and think through all your options and try to find an adult you feel comfortable with to talk to about all thats happening.

whatever her reaction...you'll get through it

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	3.00 (Average) \| July 2007 \| angelatheart

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

I would be lost, I hold dearest to me so many wishes for my childrens future. But i also would support of her/him dearly. Knowing during this hard time she/he will need me.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| Mystique

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

I too have been in that situation recently Win. I had my first daughter Klaudia when I was 20 years old. I found it scary to tell mum but she found out through my sister after I had an argument with her cos she already knew. Mum was angry at first but cooled down and got ready to support me, dad lost it and we didn't speak for almost 6 months but now he loves the kids to death.
I met Mark in 2004, his parents hated me from day one cos I already had Klaudia to a previous relationship. 3 months later I was pregnant with Natalia and although they hate me, they love Natalia to death. I am NON STOP fighting with Mark's mother because she's so opinionated and thinks everything she does is right cos I made "mistakes". Not mistakes to me, she can take a hike!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Vickydee

Re: What if your Teen told you they where going to be a parent?

I agree with winja. I was pregnant at 18 and my mum was brill (dad was another thing). My ex boyfriends family were awful to me until I had a miscarriage and had to tell the ex. Unfortunatley the message was passed on to him via his brother in a very heated telephone call with me being sworn at and threatened with the police for stalking him! I was just doing the decent thing by informing him. Anyway, after the news his family soon changed their tune but as far as I was concerned TOO LITTLE TOO LATE!!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| johnmorr

Teen Pregnancy

The bottom line is that it takes two to tango. And in the cases such as this, the question is who will be taking responsibility for the baby? More often than not, it will be the female's parents. Loving our children isn't really the issue here. Although it's rather difficult to express that in kindness when you've just been told that you're going to be a grandparent. The focus should be in creating the best aptmoshere possible for a multigenerational home.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| winja

pregnancy and teens

please please parents of boys! be there for your child fist of all but please be nice to the girl in this sort of situation! i have had the xperience of being pregnant and my fam supporting me but the fathers fam callin me every name under the sun and tryin desperatly for me to misscarry using threats of violence as one form and tellin me what a screw up i am and how it would be nicer for the baby if i aborted and this was this year! im 23 years old and this family have always told me what an excellent mum i am to my daughter but because they r supporting their son they think the right thing to do is to agree with what he wants and try and force me to agree no matter what.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| wolonfab

too true

I was 24 when i had to tell my mum i was pregnant and it was the hardest thing i ever have had to do.....i wouldnt want to imagine what i would have felt if i was just a baby myself..... My best friend got pregannt and so did her younger brother at the same time... she was 16 and her brother was 14. so her mum became a nanna at 34

she coped and i was amazed at the time that she could do it...I struggled with the whole mum thing with my boy at 25 when he was born.... Hats off to anyone who was able to do it earlier.......

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| lexiw

great advice

Well written and well said

Lexi xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| lunaeclips5

It's got to be

Perrrrrrrrrfeeeeeeeecccccct!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| Deborahsc2203

lts of talks

i have all boys , but in being a female i have spoken to my boys about this already and have had lots of deep and meaningful talks ,, they are not active as yet but when the time comes i hope they remember what morals i have installed in them to keep it covered or just dont do it at all

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| Brian49

Pregnancy

You could rant and rave but dont forget it happens to a lot of toung people. You have to support them and love them because they will need a lot of help and love.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| mumof2b

Great advice!

Great article. I hope it never happens to me but if it does i know i will be supportive and i will always be there for my boys no matter what!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| MadMel

Support

Its number one!
I was pregnant at 18 and my mum couldnt have been happier :)

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| kotseo

Advice is good

Hello UR advice is quite good, Everybody knows this but with time all drains.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| Omegastar

thank you for posting this

I was pregnant at 14 and my mother called me a wh*r* and my father refused to speak to me for over a year. Accidents happen, they shouldn't but they do, I was using multiple forms of protection, shouldn't have been doign it at all but I was and I think i could have dealt much better with it all if I had of had parental support. Because I had no one I turned to drugs while I was pg. I feel horrible about it now and thank the goddess that my daughter turned out fine. She's almost ten now and both of my parents love her to death and my father spends tons of time with her, sees her almost daily.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| allyp

Would of worked for my sister..

Great advice, I have a ways yet, but this would of worked for when my sister had gotten pregnant.
It's great if you can encourage your child to stay in school!
Thanks for writing it up :)

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	4.67 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| cookclan

Well written

I have a sexually active teen and is scares me that one day he will come to me with this...Not because I would be disappointed or anything like that but because I remember how hard it was for me at his age...I am confident with the fact that my son would tell me as he seems to tell me lots sometimes things i dont really need to know hehehe....I think I would deal with it fairly well apart from the fact if it happened to soon I would be a grandma before Im 35 AAARRRGGGHHHH hehehe....
Cheers
Angie

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	4.79 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| dcsmom

Worry

We worry about this a bit, as my step-son is living with his neglectful mother, because she allows him to do all those things he really shouldn't. He's 16, almost 17, and I guess we're just holding our breath until he's finished school.

But in the end, we'd alwasy do what's best for our family and any new addition. I think it's really unfortunate when parents disown their own children when they need them most.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| Kellzacar

Teens as parents

Great advice . . . simple and straight to the point . . .

Cheers kellz

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| nell18-3

Its all about the baby too

You have to keep sane and work together for the good of the innocent baby too.
I would hate it if one of my children were to either get pregnant or to get a girl pregnant, we always talk openly about such things but if it did happen i hope I would swallow my pride and my hurt and do what is best for the baby and help the new parents in any way I could whilst still taking a back seat and be there for support only, not to organise or take over the situation

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| mandymum3

keep calm

very good writing

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| dominicsmom

teen pregnancy

if my son came home and said he was going to be a father, id be happy. (but i dont have to worry about that now. cos hes only 9months old)

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| March 2007 \| madchanny

great advice!

I was so scared to tell my mum i was pregnant at 18! i knew what she would do, she would support me no matter what, but i was still too scared LOL!!! i believe that sex education for your child is a must, teach them about protection, responsibities of raising a child and especially that they know you are there for them if anything does happen. At least you are first to know and they are not trying to hide a pregnancy and cope on their own.

xox channy

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	4.36 (Good) \| March 2007 \| bubba76

great advice!

Hi Channy,

l too was scared when my parents found out l was 16 at the time, l had my first son just after l turned 17. My dad took it easier than my mum, but they where both there for me and so was my hubby since he was 18.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| lunaeclips5

great advice!

i was terrified and i was 22yo!!! It can be terrifing telling your parents

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	April 2007 \| sealsista72

great advice!

I was the same..I was 20 years old, and because my partner and I were only engaged and not married, I didn't think my parents would approve...I came out with it very craftily!!!! Mum and I were talking and Mum said, "Your sister's not pregnant again is she...???" and I replied, "don't think so, but I am pregnant!!!" Lol!!! Mum was quite shocked, but when I visited next, I had big bags of baby clothes to take home.

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