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coping with a death in the family, make a memory book.

graciesmom by graciesmom Speaking(March 2007) (rank 500+)

Death can be a scary topic for kids to grasp, whether if's a family member, friend, pet, etc. Hopefully this will help anyone who has to deal with this. My daughter is about three months old and her grandpa just passed away. I know it's just silly for me to

think that she understands he's gone,  but i know she will have questions in the future about him. I plan to make a memory book for her that has pictures of the two ot them together and some basic information about him for her to look at when she chooses. Now i don't have much to put in there, because they only knew each other for about three months, but you can do this sort of thing for just about any age level and it really does help. I lost my father when i was fifteen and i made a memory book of him for myself and one for each of my siblings. Each one was a little different, because we all remember people/things differently and i wanted to be consistent with that. I personally used a photo album that i got at a scrapbooking store. A box may work too for bulkier items.If the child is able to, let them help you decorate it and choose the items you put into it. You could put pictures(obvious choice) in it, along with things that the child liked doing with the person/pet that is no longer here. A  ticket stub from a movie they saw, brochures from a vacation,  a special toy they played with, a tape or cd with songs they used to sing, really there are no limits to what can go in there. You can look at it together and remember all the good times you had with this person/pet and it won't be so hard to cope with the loss. Keep the book in a special place that the child can have access to whenever he/she's feeling down about it. My siblings and i still look at our memory books of dad ten years after he left us, and it really does help in a lot of ways.

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janicepovey
April 2007 | janicepovey
Memories

What a lovely idea, to be able to look back on memories of a loved one in a book form, what a wonderful idea. I had wished i'd done something like that when i lost my dear mum.

Janice

 



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Jillofalltrades
March 2007 | Jillofalltrades
Memories

Fantastic idea -

My kids lost their little doggy last year and we have done something similar.  Master 1 doesn't remember her but the two eldest girls do.  Miss 3 still asks about her Pippy so we go out the back to her special garden (we burried her in the back yard and built a garden above her filled with rose bushes) and talk about the puppy, she is usually ok after that but still at the age of 3 doesn't fully understand where the puppy has gone.

Thanks for the advice



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cookclan
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | cookclan
Excellent advice
What a lovely idea...I think this could work for older kids to if they lose a friend or something like that...i am going to suggest it to my son anyway...Thanks for this nice idea...
Cheers
Angie


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youngmumof2
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | youngmumof2
Memories
What a nice idea. So often we lose people we love yet we keep the memories in our heads and our hearts. Its about time we brought our thoughts out and put them to paper. Not only will it help us to remember but it will help us to heal too. Great article.


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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | nell18-3
Lovely Idea
Kids as they grow up like to know if they ever met grandparents etc so this is a great way of showing them they do have a bond with them


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