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coping with a death in the family, make a memory book. |
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by graciesmom (March 2007) (rank 500+) |
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Death can be a scary topic for kids to grasp, whether if's a family member, friend, pet, etc. Hopefully this will help anyone who has to deal with this. My daughter is about three months old and her grandpa just passed away. I know it's just silly for me to
think that she understands he's gone, but i know she will have questions in the future about him. I plan to make a memory book for her that has pictures of the two ot them together and some basic information about him for her to look at when she chooses. Now i don't have much to put in there, because they only knew each other for about three months, but you can do this sort of thing for just about any age level and it really does help. I lost my father when i was fifteen and i made a memory book of him for myself and one for each of my siblings. Each one was a little different, because we all remember people/things differently and i wanted to be consistent with that. I personally used a photo album that i got at a scrapbooking store. A box may work too for bulkier items.If the child is able to, let them help you decorate it and choose the items you put into it. You could put pictures(obvious choice) in it, along with things that the child liked doing with the person/pet that is no longer here. A ticket stub from a movie they saw, brochures from a vacation, a special toy they played with, a tape or cd with songs they used to sing, really there are no limits to what can go in there. You can look at it together and remember all the good times you had with this person/pet and it won't be so hard to cope with the loss. Keep the book in a special place that the child can have access to whenever he/she's feeling down about it. My siblings and i still look at our memory books of dad ten years after he left us, and it really does help in a lot of ways.