This topic is my childhood experenced and out come as a adult-My life as child was that i was adopted in the UK so i kind of felt abanoned as who was the people looking after me i have a good life until we came to Australia and thats when my life went up side down as my parents seperated so we ended up living with my father but in the time age 7 to 14 i was sexually abused treated bad by males as i lacked self esteem i had no real friends as usually they would just back stabb you or i was a loner and that was to do with treatment as a little girl i was afraid and a lone and i had noone that i could trust -i told my father about one of the abuse but he totally egnored it that was my first time in anything like that.But now as an  adult i totally dont trust anyone as even in realionship now for 5 and half years and i still fear that something may happen bad as the realtionships i came across was abusive .With my first child i suffered bad with pnd and i was put in hospital and that gave me hugh inpact but also whilst in hospital i found i was bonding better with my baby as alot of my stresses werent near me,i suffer now from anxiety and depression but i am learning to live with that but it does get hard as you cannot find friends as you have such low esteem ,lack confidence and you see other people as enemys and even though they may want to help and thats hard as i love meeting new people and i do want to overcome this drama .

But this is what i can suggest to adults
*Listen to your kids
*Look for visual signs that your child is unhappy about something
*Teach your child to tell you anything that he/she want to talk about no matter how small or little
*Treat kids as little adults as usually they may not make sense sometimes but if u do listen you will hear there little voice
*Teach your child stranger danger and also that noone has the right to hurt ot touch and if that happens let the child know that its ok to come and talk about it
*Spend time as a family
*Let the child be involved in family desission
*Be as open as you can and keep to fair ground

Each child are very different as you have 2 kids from the same mum and dad but one may like veges but the other dosnt and thats the way feelings work.Some families have toatally different rules than others but its what makes families work and that what childhood does it moulds you as a adult and the experiernce that you had than will surely inpact on you as an adult and you need to be careful as you dont want it carry on in generations as sometimes it can the only thing i can say is break the cyle and a be the best parent you can and love your life