What qualities makes strength of character? Pt-4

Continued from part 3....I would like to say that i myself have the next quality Humility in spades but alas i don't...It is not easy being humble.... I want to take credit for my kids and the way they are growing,i like to take the credit for anything i do well cause i often feel theres not alot to take credit for...LOL..... A lot of us think of being humble as being weak and so we don't want to allow ourselves to feel that way..... and I know its very easy for pride in oneself to become arrogance.....I want my kids to learn to take pleasure (not pride)  in their accomplishments.i want my kids to know and appreciate who they are, and to respect others. I want my children to respect the experience and  knowledge of those older than them. i want them to ask me, rather than tell me...I am going to Teach my kids  to ask "Is it possible...?" ..I have recently been taught that its a  way to take words that could be seen as arrogant and make them respectful......My biggest problem is that I need to learn to educate quietly, without yelling or insulting My children,so that i am showing them humility in my own life. I am often the loudest voice in my whole suburb and i am sure that it comes across as arrogance to those around me.....

I think of Kindness as being considerate, courteous, helpful and understanding of others.... I know right now i am dreaming but Wouldn’t it be wonderful to live in such a world? it’s one i hope to see fruit in my kids. Children who learn respect and empathy can then in turn show acts of kindness that can impact  our whole world. i honestly believe that one person could change the whole world. I need to watch what words I say in front of my kids. I need to let my kids know that i love who they are no matter what they do.....My son is autistic yet even if there was a cure i would never take it because he is who he is for a reason and i love him for that.........If i show kindness to someone when i am faced with them then i need to follow through with it...This means No talking behind that same someones  back later on..... I want my kids to see something in me that they want to see in themselves..... My son loves to rake up his Nan's leaves...... He goes there hoping the wind has sent them to her door so he can do it for her......Its his gift of kindness to his Nanna...... I am checking all my actions now to make sure that my kids only see kindness from me

The second last quality i want to instill in my children is Patience.....Can anyone really say with true conviction that they have the gift of patience.....I watch my son sometimes as he struggles to deal with life and i am so impatient to get to where he is happy and successful and content and less angry ...I want to bypass the hard bits and only have the good..... Just like i want a big fattening peice of cake but i want to forgo the calories...... Its impossible to take the good and not the bad...I am having to accept that my son is different and that i cant FIX him....... I have to Not complain cause my life feels too hard and i am hurting and i want it to stop...My son is learning that he cant do things as quick as others and that his brain works differently.... My daughter is learning that her brother is mean sometimes and that when he is upset its bet to leave him to calm....we all are developing a patient attitude for what life has dealt each and everyone of us...... Patience comes in handy because there are plenty of times we have to wait for things to happen.When it comes to our children, though, it's up to us to teach them how to put their impulses aside and learn to wait. Snapping at my kids to "be patient" is not the way to teach them how to wait.Even nature teaches patience. the sun doesn't set right away.... it takes time and we have to wait....

The last and most important quality of a STRONG CHARACTER is Wisdom. It is the "principal" thing in life, the ability to discern truth and show good judgment.A child wants to please their Parent in every way. When they disobey their parent, they see the displeasure and disappointment in Their eyes. They don't want to see that. They don't want to receive discipline. Wise children learn to obey their parents because they love and fear them.Wisdom cant be taught yet I can help my children develop wisdom through their choice of friends, the way they learn from  my correction, and being able to see the consequences to their actions before its too late...I sometimes think its hard to show my kids how wisdom comes with understanding... I am wise enough to know that if they go out on the road without a helmet they could get hurt...... I am wise enough to know they need a jumper when its cold..... But how do I show my kids how to be wise.....Its the most important thing and yet it cant be learned.......

As a last thought i want to say we as parents are there to help our children develop good character even though yes it takes years to develop and  alas it comes with some pain. But If every person in the world had good character then  would we have w_ar, divorce, famine, m_urder etc....The more our character grows the better the world becomes...and the more we teach our children......