Being a Grand Parent

I see my kids doing a lot of the same things I did for the same reasons.  Like go and play I have a lot of house work to do, please be quiet I'm trying to here the news or watch this etc.

The thing about being a Grand

parent, I now look back and see a lot of areas where I could have done it different, because I now have had time to think sometimes.    The main thing I think I did wrong was to try and force my kids to be perfect, so that blocked them from developing their own personality and finding the better area suited to that personality that would have helped them to reach the hights in their lives that they deserved.      Now they are still struggling to find that something that seems to be lacking in their lives and are already caught up in lifes prosses of  caring for a young family themselves and don't have time to think, as there is so much to contend with.

At the end of the day, life makes us really, my personality has changed somewhat, some for the good and some for the not so good.   I once was so shy I would never have written on here or spoken to anyone of my problems, Since having kids and having that young life in your hands that soley depends on its parents to help it servive, made me feel so wanted and needed, I am now so strong and never shut up, can look anyone in the eye and feel proud that I made it this far, and even if my kids are not perfect like everyone else is not perfect, they are healthy, not always happy, but thats life it dishes out the hurts or we bring them on our selves.    Learning to deal with lifes hurts and learning to move forward and to never give up, as, if you look around you will always find someone worse than or worse off than yourself.

All you can do is do the best you can with what you have, money does not have nearly as much power as love and feeling, If you ever feel like hitting your child, hug them instead, if they keep lashing out, hug them harder and longer until they have to feel the love inside you, this is what I should have done. I hugged often, but when they were being very good or hurting, but when they are being naughty it is a kind of hurting, they are taking it out on something because they hate themselve for being naughty and being a kid don't know how to fix it. Hope you can understand what I mean if not ask and you will be answered.