Hi guys well this really isn't my advice because it was something that happened to a friend of mine and I would like to think that if I was ever faced with this that I would deal with this situation in the same way she did...I think she handled this situation with a great deal of wisdom and sensibility...Here is my friends story...

For the purpose of this I will call the people involved by their initials only to protect their identities because not everyone is as out there as me hehehe....

Mum S
Dad big M
Daughter R
Son little M
Daughter J

From the time S had R she knew she was a tomboy and was always the one to be roughing around with the boys in the back yard..Hey there is nothing wrong with that hey all kids like to do things with people they have things in common with...As R grew up the more R liked being around and  being one of the boys...The first hint that there might have been some sign of what was to come was when at 14 J had gone shopping with R at the shopping centre and R was checking out all the girls and telling J Just how gorgeous they were and what a perfect set of breasts they had....J was a little concerned and confided in her mum and asked her why she thought R might be doing this...S thought maybe her tomboy had a little more to tell her than she thought...

Anyway nothing was said to R and life just went on and then about 2 weeks later R at 16 introduced her new boyfriend...He was a lovely kid and they seemed to get along sooo well...they would play playstation together and if he beat her she would give him a loving punch in the arm....S rang me at this time and said to me I think R is into women...Oh Okay I said and how do you feel about that I said to her and she said I don't really know yet and thats where it was left....

I was admitted into hospital to have Nikita a couple of years later and then a few days later into a hospital in the city to have my brain tumour removed...S and R came to see me after my operation and R asked if she could be of any help and maybe come and stay with us to help...I used to walk R to school when she was in grade 2 so this was a lovely thing to offer and was greatfully accepted...After getting home R turned up two days later and settled in quite well...Her and my eldest were as close as they always were and she was soo much help around the place with Nikita...It was great...

After being with me for awhile I suggested to her to go out with kids her own age to which she did...Then she bought a boy home and another, another and another for me to meet...There were a few boyfriends along the way...But they all seemed like mates...Then one night when we went out to for my birthday for a few drinks with the girls it happened....We had had a few drinks and were dancing...There was this friend of hers there with us and all of a sudden she leant across and kissed her passionately on the dance floor in front of me....You could have knocked me over with a feather...I asked R if she was lesbian that night and she told me no she was bi sexual and really liked both for very different reasons... This was a very different concept for me to understand but I loved this kid who was now  18 and able to make her own decisions on her sexuality...

It was never spoken about again but she never was really open about it in front of me again...She went home to her mums and moved in and out of her place and finally she came home again...This time was recently and she finally told her mum the whole story of the guys and the girls and that she had made a decision on her life and decided she prefered one to another....She said mum I like women...

Well the call from S came in that night and this is how she told me it all went down...When she was told this she showed no shocked reaction and said well I thought you might have we had our suspicions..She then went into her beliefs on the whole subject of same sex relationships but then turned to her daughter and said R you are our daughter and your father and I love you very much and if this is your choice then this is something we will have to accept even if we do not fully approve...We will not lose our relationship with you as you are an adult and the way you choose to live you life is up to you...All we ask is the same things we have asked of you with boyfriends you have...That you do not flaunt you behavoiur and sexual choices in front of J and little M...

They talked for ages layed out rules and they cuddled and left it all there...I do not think they have ever been closer in their lives...You see S and Big M do not think same sex relationships are right but that is the way they choose to live their lives...They also do not want to force their beliefs onto their adult child when she felt so stongly but most of all they did not want to lose her...I think they handled it perfect....

You see even if they are her parents R is now a 21 year old female and feels stronly about what she has chosen....Her parents have accepted this even if they do not approve...Perfect comprimise if you ask me....Man I have seven kids and I just hope that if I am ever faced with this that I too will handle this as well as they have....

Just wanted to share this with you all...
Have a great day
Cheers
Angie