It is so important to spend quality time with our children, and we get so wrapped up in doing things with them and for them etc that we end up neglecting another important member of the family unit, our partner!  Husbands and wives both need to ensure that they take

the time to spend with each other.  Having children can sometimes make us forget that before we were a family we were a couple.  Please take the time to show your partner that you appreciate them, it does not have to be a grand gesture, a simple saying "I love you" or "you look fantastic today" goes along way especially for those mums who have been at home all day.  Taking an interest in how  each others day went, or making the time to actually have an adult conversation when the kids are asleep, rather than saying "I'm to tired" also ensures we stay in tune with each other, and shows that we are still interested in what our partner has been doing.  So many marriages break up because of the breakdown in communication and especially because partners have drifted apart from each other.  So to keep your family unit strong and in tact, make the extra effort to show your partner that they are still as special to you as in the beginning, before all the night feeds, vomiting and sleepless nights!  Having two parents, who are together and happy gives our children the best feeling of all 'being loved and the sense of security' what more could you want for them and the both of you will benefit from it aswell. A tip that I have is this:  A date time, where you and your partner allocate sometime, especially just for each other, and do something, just the two of you without the kids.  There are no excuses for I don't have the time, or a sitter, we have 9 kids, with no family living close by, so our date time is when the kids are all asleep, we do things like, watch a dvd together, talk, listen to music, have a junk food treat, hey and there is always giving each other a foot rub, massage etc, I am sure everyone gets the idea, so good luck, as the old saying goes "we reap what we sow"  Wishing everyone a wonderful harvest of happiness