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Just found a good article also to share with all - what a life-long package of lessons for us parents to learn..... 
1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well I ought not to have all I ask for.
2. Don't be afraid to be firm with
me. I prefer it; it makes me feel more secure.
3. Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big".
5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly in private.
6. Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
7. Don't make me feel my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
8. Don't be too upset when I say "I hate you". It isn't you I hate, but your power to thwart me.
9. Don't take too much notice of my ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need.
10. Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
11. Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
12. Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I'm not always very accurate.
13. Don't tax my honesty too much. I'm easily frightened into telling lies.
14. Don't put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
15. Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me, if you try to understand.
16. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
17. Don't keep changing your values. It completely confuses me and makes me lose my faith in you.
18. Don't ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me surprisingly warm toward you.
19. Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get on without it.
20. Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please try.
21. Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding and love, but I don't need to tell you, do I?
(anonymous)
(March 2007) (
