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Youre not alone!
monyq83 by monyq83 Young Parent(March 2007) (rank 13th)

Today I experienced something that really brought me back down to earth and made me feel kinda good about myself.

Lately of a saturday Ive been helping out a good friend of mine, helping her to get her house ready for open house as she is selling soon. She

has 2 toddlers, and is on her own at the moment as her hubby has gone interstate for work and she is following him up there once the house sells.

Now this friend of mine is a model parent. Someone that I look up to and think highly of. Her kids are gorgeous, she uses cloth nappies (something I dont have the patience for) she bakes cakes and spends quality time with her kids. She has a beautiful home and the perfect marriage. From an outsider's point of view she really is a model parent and a great role model for all mothers out there.

But today I went over to her place and realised all is not what it's cracked up to be. She is just as human as I am, and every family has their problems. When I got there her eldest child had pushed the baby over who is just learning to walk, and as a result he hit his head. Baby was screaming, mummy was screaming at big sister, and big sister was screaming at them both. I felt so at home lol

I walked in just as she was sending big sister off to her room. Mum was stressing out and the lady that was selling the house for them had just arrived as well. I went down to the bedroom to calm big sister down as she was still screaming, and finally it sank in. They are just a normal family who have just the same dramas as every other family.

I guess what Im trying to say is, when you think you are the only one in the world whos kids muck up and chuck whoppers and you think youre the only one in the world who screams like a feral at your kids, youre not alone. When you think to yourself, someone get rid of these kids NOW even if you dont mean it,  youre not alone. We all have bad days and Im sure every other parent can relate to you when you feel like this.

Just remember the next time you have a bad day, relax and think to yourself,  you're not alone!
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lillkatheryn
February 2008 | lillkatheryn
Re: Youre not alone!

well said, and its something that I'm slowly learning.



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Ravenheart
January 2008 | Ravenheart
Re: Youre not alone!

Well said, sometimes i feel like im the only one who is constantly struggling to keep on top of things, its times like that i need to pull my head in and remind myself everyone has problems too.

xoxoxox



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whome
January 2008 | whome
Re: Youre not alone!

Im forever cleaning my house, have to so im on top. I have kids here all the time and i never panic, its a great artical



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KathrynR1402
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | KathrynR1402
great article

great article, so much needed to be written!

It made me think of a conversation I was having with friends yesterday. We were round a friends house for an informal kids party & were all saying how wonderfully relaxed the host was, with ten preschool kids messing the place up. Two of the mummies are ultra tidy and I often think, if I could be like them, Id be less embarrassed to invite people round, but they were both saying how they couldnt do what our host was doing as it would stress them too much! The other mums were in my boat! What ever type of loving mummy we are, we all have our faults and strengths, we all yell & all have bad days.



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lunaeclips5
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | lunaeclips5
Perfect

Some parents (no names mentioned) can make you feel like the biggest #*!$ on earth when you do yell at your kids. I have told someone to shut up and mind there own business for this reason. In some cases some parents can go WAY to far with there kids. THIS IS where it helps to be a prying neighbour, for the childs safty, if you suspect, or see things completely out of place. i.e black eyes on kids bruises all over them smashing yelling like they will actually hurt the child, DO NOT hesitate to call the police. If you are friends with these people, maybe knocking on the door and asking to come in for a cuppa may lighten the atmosphere, break the tention. You can also have a sneak peek to see if the childs welfare is at risk during this time if you are suspisious. great artical mony.

A little yelling is normal, an overly horrifing amount is dangerous! You aren't a lone and there is help, even if you cant talk with friends or family, there are councilling lines where you can talk to someone annonamously (miss spelt) if  you need to. Even someone on here might have some help for you. bottling things up never helped anyone.

Tracey



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Gypsie
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | Gypsie
Normal????

What exactly is that again.....It's been a while since I've had that feeling.

Oh wait...screaming kids...messy house...dishes not washed etc...

Yes that sounds like me...Is that what ya call normal??? I fit the bill  at least now I know I'm not alone...at any time of the day or night...Thanks sweet.



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janicepovey
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | janicepovey
Exactly

Well done, it's nice to hear that we are all just human after all.

Regards Janice



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lucky321
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | lucky321
good one
so ture   somes of us think we are the only one losing it with the kids , i be lucky if  get three days out of week not going off at my lot  lol .


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jmrmumstheword
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | jmrmumstheword
great advice
well all i can say is "i'm not alone" lmao, you know i scream at my kids and they drive me bonkers every bloody day, we live in a house where it's not normal if it's quite lol, there's always some kind of screaming going on say for instance if m has pulled j's hair, or if j has just gone up to m and kicked her here i come running down the hall like a complete idiot tripping as i go lmao and screaming at the girls thank god you wrote this advice mate i feel at home now too lol


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lightbee
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | lightbee
Thanks Mony!
This so needed to be said.  I sometimes feel like I need something like parents anonymous "Hi everyone, I'm Leith, and I lose it at my kids sometimes!"


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      monyq83
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | monyq83
Thanks Mony!
Yep Im exactly the same mate. I think every parent is like that. And the ones that think theyre not are just in denial.


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mcm
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | mcm
So important to remember
When I had my girl I thought everyone was so happy and its only now 3 kids later that I feel that no not everyone has it perfect all the time. It is a huge relief!

Great advice!


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ssedgar
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | ssedgar
You're not alone
It is so easy to forget when you are having a bad day that you are not alone there are a million other people going through the same things at the same time.


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angelmum
4.63 (Excellent) | March 2007 | angelmum
Nice to know
But what amazes me is when my kids have a little hissy in public other mothers look at them and me like OMG, I quite often think yeh right and your kids have halo's.  It is refreshing though to see other kids been terrors like mine can be.


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      RebeccaDorant
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | RebeccaDorant
Nice to know
omg that is so true, i went to the shop today to get bub some clothes and my just turned 4yr old who looks like he is about 6 because of his size chucked a whopper tantrum. he is stronger than me when he is angry and he took a swing at my face fist and all, he missed but thats the only thing that will make me hit him. so he got a smack on the back of the leg and this lady actually came and told me off for hiting him back in the middle of me telling him why he got a smack. ahhhhhh people like that i think just dont remember what their kids were like, never paid attention or worse, have never had kids!! btw... i also noticed some other parents who walked past and they looked like they felt sorry for me trying to battle a kid who's half my size but quite obviously twice as strong... moral: not everyone is like that but there are a few and they always seem to leave the lasting impression... sad really isn't it?


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           lunaeclips5
April 2007 | lunaeclips5
Nice to know

I'm not like that, if it helps. My kids dad on the other hand! Sometimes i could ring his neck for things he says about people that have to punish there kids in public, little does he know i have had to do this also. Reality Check. ive been in tears because of the rude insults people make. Here you are at the supermarket, checkout chic asking for money, your fummbling threw your purse trying to get it quickly so you dont make the next person inpatient, your older kids are running off with a stranger. You have no choice not to yell, GET BACK HERE NOW!!!!! well you all know the sinario. They will get it too one day, and all i can say to that is. I hope i'm there.

Tracey



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nell18-3
4.39 (Good) | March 2007 | nell18-3
Great Reminder
Its so not true that everyone else raises Angels whilst we have mini terrors
all children are the same
xxx


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2007 | cazza
You''re not alone
thank you for a great subject, as i am always getting told by hubby that the way i act is''nt normal at times, so after reading this i truly know that i just not the only one out there that has bad days lol...


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      monyq83
4.63 (Excellent) | March 2007 | monyq83
You''re not alone
you are sooo normal. we all have days like this, im sure alot of other people can relate to the story i just told about my friend.


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      lunaeclips5
April 2007 | lunaeclips5
You''re not alone
Haha, yours and mine both need a reality check lol


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MadMel
4.07 (Good) | March 2007 | MadMel
fantastic!
Today I was just telling my sister "I hate kids and I dont know WHY i had any" LOL I dont mean it of course.
Oh and yay Jaidan just turned around and said "F***ing turn it on Chase"
See my kids are brats too lol


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