Are you an Imperative person or (in laymans terms) a control freak?

I am a lover of control….. I have to be in charge of every part of my life…. I hate waiting on others, relying on others, submitting to the wish or desire of

another. This not only damages my relationships with my family my SO But also with my children... I get irritated when they dont do what i want the way i want the first time.... I am so afraid of being walked over that i walk over others and their opinions and thoughts....It is unintentional but its a part of my life i want to change.

 Its is okay to have some of these characteristics but when we become so convinced that its our way or the highway we can get into trouble….  ….Check the statements that apply to you to find how much control you really like

1. I hate to admit my weaknesses even if they seem obvious to others
2. I get irritated when others make mistakes
3. I tend to use words like should, ought, must and cant when talking to others
4. I tend to do an important job myself because someone else wont do it right
5. I’m uncomfortable with ideas that are different
6. I am annoyed and upset more than id like to be
7. Once I have an opinion then I don’t tend to change it
8. I stay away from people whose opinions are different from mine
9. When I am working on a project I become focused and I get irritated when someone interrupts me and I tend to snap at him or her…
10. I get impatient t when other people don’t understand what needs to be done
11. I would rather let people have a false favourable impression of me rather than being open and vulnerable
12. When a person tells me about a personal problem I feel I have to provide a solution…
13. I use silence to punish those who disappoint or disagree with me
14. Before starting a project I dwell on it constantly to be sure I do it just right
15. When someone else is in a foul mood it puts me in a foul mood too
16. Critical thoughts come to my mind more than I would like
17. When someone c0onfronts me about my opinion or beliefs I immediately begin to search for a rebuttal
18. I have a mental list of standards, people should meet before I accept them
19. I sometimes resent having to do so much for my family
20. I am so comfortable when others share very personal emotion with me

 

You have more than likely checked more than one…. Each of us has the desire to be in control enough that it causes us frustration….

If you checked less than 5 you are composed…

If you checked 5 to 6 then you are normal…

If you are like me and ticked most, if not all then you are a candidate for stress and tension and you are a CONTROL FREAK

 

So Now you know you are an imperative person what do you to do to change it?

The First step is to acknowledge it...
step 2 is to understand why you are this way
and step 3 you need to free yourself from the desire to always be right (i will explain more in the part 2)