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4.60 (Highly recommend) from 87 votes (965 Visits)

What I feel minti is about

by lexiw

(April 2007) (rank 16th)

I think some people here on minti need to take a few steps back and really think about why they are here on minti.

When I first joined this site I found what I thought was the best site I had ever seen. I had found a place to

meet other parents, Get advice and to hopefully help someone along the way. Minti for me has been a great way to talk with others that are interested in parenting and the welfare of all children. I have met some of the most beautiful people here friends that I hope I will have forever, People who have jumped to help me as soon as I needed it and with things that don't matter to the people I know out of minti. I have been shown what true freindship is here on minti.

For all parents we need a place that we can talk about parenting, to get advice have friends who are like minded and be able to share our beautiful children with the world. For some Parents this is essential due to depression or isolation and a somewhere like minti is the perfect place for them to come to get help twenty four hours a day.

It has made me very sad lately to see so much competitiveness here on minti obviously some people do not understand or have not found the true value of minti. The rankings here on minti are there so that when someone needs help quickly they can find the best advice quickly for their problem. The rankings are not there to see who can get to the top first. Member rankings help newcomers see who participates on the the site alot and to see who could help them around because of their participation. I have not been on here as much as I used to because it seems to have turned into a competition that obviously will never be won.

I think everybody should take a long hard look at why they are here and what they really want out of minti because some people are making this site a nasty place to be. Also please read this advice and the comments as it is a very good article.

click here for the article

Lexi xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| November 2007 \| katierose

Re: What I feel minti is about

Spot on! Well said!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| apopulis

Re: What I feel minti is about

I am very new to this site. So I do not understand it all yet. Thank you for the reality check.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| dinsdale

Re: What I feel minti is about

Well said. It is a great parenting site
Tracey

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| Lunaeclips

Re: What I feel minti is about

Great advice

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| luckyone

Re: What I feel minti is about

Well put lexi , We are here to help each other and supported each other . Its a great site to to help in with our families and Theres alot of good advice on here to help out in where to get help and how to deal with the problem at hand .

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| smexyaye

Re: What I feel minti is about

i know i came here for help and i have only been on here for a day and i have met some amazing people with great advice...
so people that come here for that shouldnt be here people come here for help and support... and i know that to be here is a great feeling and people shouldnt turn this site into some sort of judging game we dont need to be judged buy people who dont understand anything... we need people who understand and people who have the advice that we need.
since iv been on here everyone has made me feel so much better.

ashley

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| sebcanatalay

Re: What I feel minti is about

I think ranking and competition is not bed but if people write their article just because of ranking then it is a different issue. I don't know because I am very new to Minti. I joined minti because I wanted to protect children against abusiness, but know I am learning and finding very different and interesting things which are very heplfull to me.

Take care

Seb

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| August 2007 \| bug5

Re: What I feel minti is about

good point. i come onto minti looking for advice that can help me not to win a comp who can get the highest ranking. i have found some of the advice very helpful.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| August 2007 \| AangelMomOf3

Re: What I feel minti is about

This is exactly how I feel about the site - I come here not to be judged but to get and give advice & make friends along the way. I really enjoy Minti & I haven't been on here that long but I sure am glad I finally found a site I could trust & Not be judge by other people or friends...

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| August 2007 \| hannahbear

Re: What I feel minti is about

Maybe this wasn't the best thread to read for my very first here at Minti. I have been a part of a couple of these sorts of sited and I am hoping this one will be a bit different, time will tell. But I do like the feeling I have gotten here just from the registration process.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| August 2007 \| emmie

Re: What I feel minti is about

great article i love it so true x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| toosh

Re: What I feel minti is about

Fantastic Lexi! This is exactly how I feel about the site - I come here not to be judged but to get and give advice & make friends along the way. I really enjoy Minti & hate to see people squabbling over silly things!

Teshia

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Jillofalltrades

Re: What I feel minti is about

Well put Lexi honey. I agree I come here because there are things that I can't discuss with people I see on a regular basis. My friends on Minti are my confidants and I love them all for their willingness to be open about anything I have to say. We are here to help each other, to share our experiences and to help others. WE ARE FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!

xxxxxxxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| mumof10

Re: What I feel minti is about

Absolutely fantastic advice lexi! I have been hiding a bit due to my depression! I am sometimes afraidf to even write my blog as i sense sometimes i may be judged and i know that that is not what minti is about! I really do enjoy minti since i came across this site i have told soooo many people about it! I absolutely agree member ranking/rating does not mean we are not good members or bad parents it is as you said Lexi to help others see maybe whom may have some advice that they can relate to and mailnly for all of us to see that some members have been on minti longer so also therefore have a higher ranking/rating due to this and the advice written! We are all equal no matter what our rating/rankibg is this is what Minti is to me all about Friendships and helping each other when ever and with whatever we can! Thank you again Lexi hugs Michelle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Girraween

Re: What I feel minti is about

I think Minti is about how we can learn from each other and see it as a support base. Let us hope most others find it helpful as well ....

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| meggles

so true

As always beautfully written and very insightful.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| mummy2girls

exactly!!!

this is what it is about turning frowns into smiles... it's meant to be helpful and useful...

minti friends should always support each other...

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| cheleinkal

I agree but Just want to say

I just wanted to add and maybe I am all alone here and my heart is pounding as I type this because I fear being shunned but I just wanted to say that when I am feeling low (and it happens more than I care to admit to myself) my ranking DOES mean something to me. It means, people out there like what I have written and how I have written it, it means that my advice may have helped someone and how can that not make you feel better about yourself. For pure selfishness sometimes I NEED my rankings and if that makes me pathetic and childish and self centred or what ever else has been mentioned not just here but most places from time to time, then so be it. It is the deep dark truth of ME. I NEED to be successful at something sometimes.

I have had a tiff lately, but that was because I was told my opinion was "crap", and I thought I was (mainly) tactful in my response considering. I don't enjoy argueing, I am one who hates confrontations in the real world and Minti is no exception to this rule. I do find it easier to stand up for myself here though than in the real world, which once again is probably sad and pathetic, but there you go.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| crystalmoon

i CAN

relate to your comment totally.Well written and I think there are a lot on here who will agree.Hugs Crystal

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| sluxton

Good point

I have only been on Minti a few weeks and was really enjoying it but all of a sudden I find myself reading these little "squabbles", which are of no benefit to anyone.

If people want to converse or respond specifically to one person, it is more appropriate to email them, otherwise, let it be the general informative discussion of everyones' contribution that is should be.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| KyAquarius

Well said

I have enjoyed every bit of my Minti experience so far! Its been great meeting other parents in here, chatting away about what’s going on in each others lives and comparing parenting experiences. I’ve met some wonderful people through this site so far! Its sad to hear some people aren’t hear for ‘nice’ reasons. I hope they take a step back and realise what Minti is really for. So I just like to say thanks to everyone I’ve come into contact with here so far! Your advice and experiences have given me great things to reflect on.

Kylie *

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| pcgames

good on you

It does seem that way lately doesn't it and when you are looking for advice some are too busy whinging or arguing instead of reading and helping others. We all have heard of "when did that one pass me by", well maybe they should stop and look for the signs as that is also important and some people have problems and some have questions that shouldn't be disregarded just because of a few small minded people.So minti goers I need some advice today and my question is up so please go their and any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.BYE FOR NOW

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| sweet-bear

what i feel minti is about

well put and so true

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| atacj05

What I feel minti is about

great item Lexi well writen

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| samantha

everyone to there own

i have been on minti for i think about a year at least (i should probably check that ) but i just want to say it has had its ups and downs, sometimes people get a bit carried away then other times its awsume, but right from the start people have been competeing to be at the top, but why does that matter? i couldn't care less who is at the top or who wants to be at the top, and who cares if some people want to make it competitive as i havn't had problems with any of those people although i am not trying to compete so i guess i am just no competition lol, i come on minti for the advice and social interaction with other mums, especially with other mums with large familys as sometimes i feel i am the only one lol but since being on minti i've found there are quite a few and i enjoy giveing support and advice along with recieveing it, and i think as long as you are getting what you need from minti why should it matter what other people do on here? just keep away from them if they are not like yourself if you feel so inclined, but hay guys cheer up minti is for eveyone not just people who suffer from depression or anything the like, i find it frustrateing at times when you have to dance so much around something as it is not in my nature, i am very hounest and straight ti the point, why are so many people so ansy, we are all big girls here, if we do not agree with someone or if we feel anoyed by someones competitivness or if someone is just being down right sneeky as i have heard of people going around marking down peoples stuff, but really who cares!have a windge to your buddy lol just don't worry about them your always gonna get them, after all you don't have to pass any special test to become a minti member, all you need is a computer and be in the internet lol so your gonna get all sorts, just apreciate the ones that are supportive of you and who have good advice when you need it, because the way i see it there is always gonna be contraversy especially when the sight is all about asking and giveing advice!! it is just enebitable you can't expect anything different

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| blackwidowkate

Thank you Lexi

Hi
Enough said.
Luv Deb

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| llmunchkin

SSS

Short, sweet and simple... Exactly what it should be, Minti is meant to be a time out, a cuppa and a chat online with friendly, supportive people. A little controversy here and there in regard to opinion is healthy, but all of this 'competitive' rot over rankings is rubbish. Cheers for you and your down to earth advice, and all of the amazing supportive, helpful advice and comments you constantly give to others!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| lunaeclips5

Being Me

Exactly Lexi!!! APlace to be me....

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| Gypsie

A Village

Yes Deb...it does take a village to raise a child.....like you....Minti is my village ...and much more helpful than real family 99.9 % of the time.

Thanks for a great read Lexi

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| Deborahsc2203

well put

I couldnt agree with you more right from the heart .this isnt high school is it ,,

theres are so many people that are just plain old bullies that Must of been either bullied or the bulls in their lifes ,and its an awuful shame that people that chips on their shoulders about other people and cant see behond great advice / help comments ,, i mean how on earth could voteing someone down be good for others when all they are on here is for help or to do their best to help others .

dosent it say that it takes a villiage to raise a child ? to me this is my villiage ,

people taketheir time to so their best to help others1 because they have been in that spot before and two cause they care and dont like to see others go through things alone also .

Not everything that we read will help everyone BUT in also saying this at times it just takes a comment or article that we read that might help us will set off a light bulb in our heads and think yeah i might just look into that a little more ,what might not work for me might work for others ,voteing people down for things is just plain old childish and not helpful at all .as we all dont agree with whats been written we also have to keep in mind that it just might be something that someone else has been looking for and with saying that should never vote another down just dont even bother to comment go forward to something else they might be able to help with instead .

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