Negativity breeds Negativity...Check out your friendships...

Over the last couple of months I have learnt something that I wanted to share with all on here. Friendships are important and something we really cherish...Well I know I do...Along the way in my life I have made a fair amount of friends and also lost a few probably more than I have kept..No definately more than I have kept...I have learnt in the past couple of months that surrounding yourself with friends with similar interests is not the only thing you need to do in your life...This is something I have also learnt...

I have 7 kids as most of you know and with my friendship comes that fact...One of my kids has Bipolar and I have to live with that and expect my friends to also respect the fact whether they like it or not it is part of my life...I have lost many a friend as they feel I should just let him go and hope for the best or to boot him in the bum and pull him into line...Mental illness is not dealt with in this way and this is something I have dealt with for quite awhile...I also have a child with asthma and people can handle this because it is common and something that is accepted in society alot more than mental illness...

If I make plans with my friends I need them to understand that if those plans fall apart becuase my child with a mental illness goes on a down that I may have to break those plans or postpone them just as much as they would understand if my daughter has an asthma attack..I need friends who think and feel a similar way to me and do not judge the way I handle something in my life that is sooo important to me...MY KIDS...

So my advice to you all when you make a friend look for positive ones...Smiles are contagious and negativity breeds negativity...Look for one who does not critisize the way you raise your kids even in a small inconspicous way if it upsets you something they have said then tell them and if they keep doing it break away...Life is too short to have to worry about what your friends will think of you because of a decision you make when it comes to your kids...Go for friends who feel similar about the way you raise your kids...You are going to have alot more in common with someone who will not judge you on your life.

I have recently done this in my life and even though it is a little more lonely I am not feeling as down as I used to and doubting my parenting as much as I used to...I am a Mum and when I gave birth to my kids I didn't ask for the few things that have happened in my life like all of us with our kids but when they do happen we have to make decision on how we will deal with it and our friends need to understand that and accept it even if they do not agree...

Get rid of the negativity in your life and surround youself with postive people and work on positive friendships...Raising kids is hard enough and we do enough second guessing on our own decisions we make without having friends who help to confuse this...What do you think? Do you need to clean your friendship circle?

And lastly I will leave you with this little quote I love "Smile it will make people wonder what you are up to"

Take care all
And have a great day
Cheers
Angie