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What to Do When Your Baby Touches Himself

pfallerj by pfallerj Proud Parent(April 2007) (rank 95th)

What are you going to do when your little boy discovers that he’s a little boy?

Regardless of the way you feel about touching your private parts, having a son or daughter that walks around in public with a hand down their pants isn’t really socially

acceptable.

The most important thing to remember right now is that your baby isn’t doing it because it’s sexual, they’re doing it because they’re learning about their body.

They touch their belly, face and feet right now too. You just don’t think twice about it.

So how do you get them to stop touching themselves in public without setting up sexually unhealthy behavior?

At the age of 12-18 months, disciplining or reasoning with them isn’t going to work. Use the distraction tactic.

My son always tried to “go downstairs” when we were changing his diaper or when we were giving him a bath. i.e. when he’s naked. We always gave him a toy or something to hold while we changed him. All he ended up doing was putting the toy down there too.

Our daycare actually came up with this tip. They sing “Row, Row, Row Your Boat,” anytime they change the kids. And they use their hands to make a rolling motion while they sing it.

It’s perfect. My son sings along with the song and he makes the motion. He’s engaged enough to forget about touching himself down there. And since he heard it seven or eight times a day, it’s officially the first song he remembers and can sing a few lines to.

Once your toddler gets older, a different tactic probably needs to get taken. I’m not there yet, but if anyone else has experience on how they handled this sometimes embarrassing situation, sound off in the comments.

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mummy2girls
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | mummy2girls
Re: What to Do When Your Baby Touches Himself
distraction is a good technique, but ultimately it's a natural stage in the child's behaviour and development.  so i'd not worry too much about it, other than distracting from a pooey nappy!!!!


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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | llmunchkin
Gr8 tip for nappy change time...
I agree that it is natural, it doesn't bother us in any way, and we certainly don't make a fuss about it.  However, at nappy change time, it is very handy to have any distraction that stops little hands from getting covered in poo... I like this idea, as when you give them something to play with - it is just another thing that could potentially end up all pooey.


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Kellzacar
4.71 (Excellent) | April 2007 | Kellzacar
What to Do When Your Baby Touches Himself

Hmmmmmmmmmmm . . . I uderstand about distraction when you are changing a poopy nappy but as for the rest NOPE > > > > > don't agree at all . . .  SORRY.

I have worked with young kids most of my adult life, I am a trained foster parent as well as in the past woking in serveral instituations with children including the mentally disabled. One of the first things that I was taught was that it is a natural behaviour. I was also also told that if I was openly seen commenting on this type of behaviour that it would be considered inappropriate.

Children learn alot about themsleves by touching and feeling  their private areas, it isn't just about masturbation (which incidently can begin in children as young as 18months).  How can our children truly learn about themsleves if we dont allow them the luxury to explore themsleves. This behaviour will eventuially stop and if it becomes a porblem then it can be a good indictator that something else is generally wrong. 



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cookclan
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | cookclan
ummm
Sorry I agree with the girls on this one....It is natural and normal and I have actually written some advice about children and their sexuality.....Unless there is a huge problem and it is happening in an unusual amount there is no problem I can see....We teach our kids to like their arms and legs and this is just another part of their bodies....If there is a poey nappy I can see why you would do that but otherwise in the bath and stuff I would let him go....By the time he reaches the right age I am sure you will have taught him that it is not appropriate in public...


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tassiebiarch
4.72 (Excellent) | April 2007 | tassiebiarch
well!!!!!!!!!!!
my sons have and are doing it and i don't care its so natural did you no that they actually touch and get Erec- in the womb yes a medical book told me so does it matter at that age no


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blackwidowkate
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | blackwidowkate
Adults do it too
Hi
We may be able to distract them at this age but what do we do as adults.
A lot of males walk around touching themselves and adjusting themselves too...and in public.
How do we distract them.
It's no wonder kids do what they do.
Wait til you have a girl and watch what they do at this age...then you will have fun. 
As my grandmother said it is their first toy as they come into this world and it is their last toy as they leave it...
Luv Deb


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lexiw
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | lexiw
mmmmm

I agree that distracting them is a good idea but I don't agree that it is socially unacceptable between 12 and eighteen months they are just babies and everybody I know dosn't even think about it.

 Lexi xxx



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      MadMel
4.78 (Excellent) | April 2007 | MadMel
mmmmm
I agree. My sons are 2 and 3 and still touch in the bath and when they are changing their nappy and I dont see a problem with it. Its not in a sexual manner more WOW IM NAKED WHATS THIS. It's natural curiosity. I dont see why it would be an issue for you not to let your son play...? Yes I get in public its not something to do but in private?


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           pfallerj
4.00 (Good) | April 2007 | pfallerj
mmmmm
For us, it's more of a cleanliness issue. We sing the song when we change his diaper mostly, because otherwise his hands could get dirty before we can clean him up.

I totally agree that it's perfectly fine for babies to do it, like you said, it's just curiosity. This is more about the parents being OK with the little one doing it at this stage.


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                MadMel
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | MadMel
mmmmm
Vote changed :)


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                MadMel
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | MadMel
mmmmm
ahhh right! I got ya :) Yes well if its poopy I dont let them touch either :)


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