Because at times it seems that everyone out there has children, it’s ironic that when you become a parent it can feel terribly isolating. It’s totally normal to feel alone in parenthood sometimes but that doesn’t make it any less difficult.

One of the most

important things to do for yourself when you feel isolated is to reach out. Finding other parents who are going through the same things you are is not only helpful in surviving the early days of parenthood; it’s also healthy for your mind, body and soul. Quite often the relationships you form during this unique time of life become lifelong friends. Having a support system (even if it’s only one other person who can relate to you) can make all the difference.

There are a number ways to find other parents to connect with. Not every method will feel right for everyone but from this list, there’s bound to be one that will work for you.

1. Lean on family members or friends who also have young children.  If you are lucky enough to have a built in buddy who has a baby the same age as yours, you’re one step ahead of the game. Make more of an effort to touch base with them, share stories, take walks, and compare notes now that you are experiencing parenthood together. It will help make things easier.
2. Seek out neighbors who have kids. Take note of what’s going on kid-wise in your neighborhood. If you see a mother walking her baby past your house in the mornings, make a point of being outside when she passes by. Introduce yourself and don’t be shy. You just might find a new walking partner. It’s well worth being on the lookout in your neighborhood for connections like this. The closer your support system is in proximity to you, the better.
3. Visit local  public places or events that are geared toward parents. Public libraries almost always offer story times, which are usually full of other parents in need of socialization. Even with a newborn, these activities can be great experienced, for you and your baby. And remember, you aren’t alone feeling lonely. Almost all parents parent feels the same way at least sometimes, so going out of your way to introduce yourself is not only acceptable, it’s usually welcomed! When your baby is a little older, parks can’t be beat for finding other parents. Find a few with kids the same age as yours and strike up a conversation with their parents. It’s a great place to make a new friends for your children and yourself!
4. Check out the scheduled classes or workshops in your area and register for one that might sound interesting to you or that fits into your daily routine. Classes like this usually range from parent-and-me classes for the youngest babies all the way through preschool aged children. You’ll find that other parents who enroll in these classes are looking for a connection as well. You’ll often see groups of parents hanging out even after the class ends, having lunch, chatting and enjoying being in the company of other grown-ups who can relate to them.
5. When you do meet a new friend or two, begin a scheduled time to meet. Once a week is a great way to start. Whether it be for a morning stroll, coffee or a lunch date, these will be gatherings you will begin to look forward to each week. Setting time aside for nurturing your connections keeps you accountable to one another and yourself to get some social time with other parents. As the kids get older, they’ll begin to appreciate the built in group of friends they will have as well.
6. Seek connections online. Social parenting websites like Minti can really help break up the isolation issue. With the internet, you can pop on while the baby sleeps and make instant connections, get help, commiserate with other parents, laugh, share, and just be yourself. Join a group that might be of specific interest to you to become even more involved in the communities. Quite often, you can find parents on these sites that may live nearby and are available to meet up in person. Or they might have ideas of places to go or events to attend in your area as well.
7. Ask around. When you do find yourself in conversations with other parents, ASK how other parents find connections. Inquire about classes, events, groups, websites, etc. Word of mouth is a great way to get in touch with new opportunities and hear ideas. Sharing is an essential part of making our parenting experience richer and more balanced so don’t hesitate to get as much input as you can.

 As a new parent, there’s no need to continue feeling alone because you’re NOT. Get out there and meet other parents, make new friends, and get connected. You (and your baby) will be glad you did!