being a friend with minti

being the best minti member i can be, this is a set of my own rules that i try to follow to be a good friend.

1. add ppl to your msn list
adding ppl to your list helps you to get to know them better and be there for them when they need you.

2. listen when u dont know what to say
lets face it sometimes a friend will share something with you and you just dont know what to say so you make an excuse and run off, the friend would probably understand if you told them you didnt know what to say and stayed to listen sometimes ppl just need to talk out their problems.

3. add more ppl, as much as you can manage
its hard to get to know ppl when you have too many at once i try to add ppl as i get to know if i add them all at once i find it overwhelming and take longer to get to know anyone properly, but i do make an effort to welcome as many new members each week as i can.

4. if someone asks for help take time out to be there for them
sometimes life is busy and someone will catch you as you are about to run out the door and tell you they have a problem, if i can i at least try to postpone what im doing but if it cant wait i will try and fix a time that we can both catch up when i can listen with everythning i have.

5. if you cant offer a remedy or help to a q still try to comment by offering an ear or by wishing the person luck with their prob
i thought it was really nice recently when i had a really big problem and ppl didnt have answers for me but made sure to write "hope it goes well" and "good luck" ive taken a note out of their book and i try to do the same now, coz it made me feel great to know ppl cared.

6  introduce minti members on your list to each other
group chat on msn is great for this i love meeting new ppl and adding them it makes the whole process alot easier if someone else introduces you.

7. if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all
well not entirely but do use tact when criticising ppl, you may not agree with their opinion,but do remember that they took the time and effort to write and are probably proud of their work.

8. dont report members unless what they have written is thretening or unduly offensive
please dont report ppl because you just dont like them its very silly and cruel, instead dont look at things they have posted, easy enough! but if someone is following you around minti harrassing you or writing things that are rude or upsetting dont hesitate to report.

9. thank ppl when they are there for you
lately i have had a hard time and i have to say a huuuge thankyou to everyone for their support i have thanked most ppl personally but a few may have been missed, so thankyou everyone at minti you have kept me sane!(well....almost)
 
10.if someone is having a bad day try to be understanding
we all have them and sometimes we can be cranky and negative, it really shows who your mates are when you appologise for your behaviour and ppl say hey we all have bad days!