Food Tensions

Well,here I go..so hope I say what I'm thinking clearly!

As a new Mom I was a stressed out,high strung mommy who was scared out of her mind that something I would do would led to harming my baby. As I moved to toddler hood and still was doing

O.K. I got stressed out over the baby not eatting. Then my Hubby who was not around much due to work said something that made me stop and think. I was all uptight about my first born not taking much that day and my Hubby profoundly said,"So??? He's not going to starve to death!". Well after getting over that he didn't undertstand at all the importance of this(I was really upset at the lack of concern for his own son!!!) I thought about it. Rare for me. Usually once I got mad at Hubby that was not going to led to thinking about what he said. So there was something there in what he said. So..looking about and noticing the issues of Mom's around me,a lot seemed to be about food.

So I formed a non tension pac with myself and carried that on with all my kids. If food was a battle ground then I would not enter it. You need to choose your battles with kids and food is not one you can win so don't engage!  Not to say that you let kids eat when ever and what ever they choose. Just control the what(good food and snacks) and the when(meals and snack times). You can not force eatting and smart little kiddies know this. So if you make an issue out of something they know they can control...you are going to lose. If tension is felt then meal times become the battle ground and you loose your family time to out bursts and fighting. A lose,lose situation. So this totally worked for us and I thought I'd pass on my way of thinking about this. Food is emotional. Food to grow,live and be well. Some of the ladies that had kids around the same time as me have had severe food issues with their kids even as teens and adults. Food to share the day over,come together as a family and eat in happiness!!!  And might I add all five of my kids did grow up without me doing them in.Cheers to all,take care.