Yes it is hard on kids, My mother left my Father with 7 kids no divorce just left. I was 21 when it happened but it left my17 year old sister to help dad bring up the other 5 kids aged 15 and under. My wife and i came close to parting but we went and talked to a marriage guidence counciler, it saved our marriage but the kids new something was wrong and i think they still worry now.

I do know and understand what you are trying to say here
But I think you will find there are too many of us hurting to be able to take much comfort in what you said. Maybe if you had expanded with your advice. Really all you have done is given your opinion not any actual advice you would have got better rating.
I'm not having a go, I genuinely believe children do benefit from having two stable parents, but with their being no advice, even though you have validated it by saying if you are not in an abusive marriage........ However sometimes some of us don't even realise we are in an abusive marriage until we get out of there.
If I read this 18 months ago and felt I had to give it another go because abuse had not entered my head. I KNOW I would not be here today
My marriage was slowly killing me but it was not until I was out of it I realised I was being abused.
Please don't read this as criticism. I just don't like leaving a low rate without explaining why
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