The Reward Question

great idea and great article sweetie

thanks for sharing

luv emz xx

What a great idea I was rewarded with spending money quiet well but there were times my dad was between jobs due to the line of work he was in and id have it stopped, ,my parents brought me up well and I understood, houseold chores emm not many of them either, but some how ive develpoed in to some kinda clean freak..lol think thats motherhood...I took it upon my self to clean my room change my bed do my washing try cooking ironing etc etc i just liked things done my way and had that independant streak which I hope my kids will pick up just incase they'll have a few chores to teach them values, even after a c section my dad thought he'd tidy rd and he was ordered away from my oven ...lol which i cleaned at 5 am the nxt day I took all this upon my self because I have a great deal of respect for my parents everything they have done for me, and ill be trying my best not to raise a bratty kid who's spoiled rotten for being a pain in the bum lol.

hugs jo xxx

Great advice Margir, some good pointers. Love reading everything you write. Far too much these days, kids, expect money, for doing so little.

love Janice xxxx

i was a single mum for more than 8 years so pocket money was not existent, not till they were a lot older, home duties were just that home duties that needed to be done and part of our lives, LOL.......everything was rewarded like you say with fun things and treats....... great advice, Margir.......well done.....regards Sandra xxx

I teach my daughter that helping around the house makes it run smoother.  Even though it takes longer for her to do things than it would take me it still teachers her how to be responsible for the cleanliness of her own room.  I haven't had any rewards other than telling her like this morning that if she's quick we will have time to bake a cake for when our friends arrive.  That was enough for her.  So now we've baked our cake, when it's cooled we'll ice it then our friends will be here for afternoon tea! Works well like that.  Mine's 3 so I don't think offering money to a child of that age will teach her to want to do chores anyway.  Great article!

Good advice! I'm trying to memorise that school one for our competitive big girl! I tried to introduce pocket money as an incentive for vacuuming under the table after meals, but after one pay day and visit to the sweetshop, she lost interest. I should have known better! I do recall at college being taught that money cannot be used to increase someone's motivation, only to decrease it when it is absent. For example, I read of a canny youth worker who fixed the problem of some kids taunting an old man who lived near them by paying them to taunt him. After a while he stopped paying them, and they refused to taunt the man unless he paid them, which of course he didnt any more!!!

Hi there

I can see where you r coming from with this advice (well writtern by the way..) and I do agree to an extent. With my 10.5yr old son, he receives pocket money each week which half he gets to keep and the rest he banks. I believe this teaches him the importance of saving. He has his chores around the house which if they are not done then no pocket money. He is at the age where he would prefer money for birthdays ect from relies so again he keeps half to spend and banks the rest. There have been a few times where he really wants something in particular so this is where I offer him more chores in reward of more money. I think this teaches him that not everything is simply handed to him just because he wants it. I don't believe in rewards for good grades maybe just a special treat like takeaway tea. Yeah it's a hard one, each family is different i guess. This is just how mine works i suppose. Thanks for the article. xx