How To Heal A Broken Heart part one

"I love you, I love you all along.I miss you, been far away for far too long.I keep dreaming that you will be with me and never let go".( Nickleback. far away.)

 Im sobbing these lyrics out at the top of my voice and punching my pillow. I feel used,heavy,hurt,angry,sad and my heart physically feels as if its breaking, tearing apart inside of me.Im in a fog of depression and all I know is that i will never be held in his arms,hold his hand, see him smiling back at me, hear his laugh and never hear the words I love you again from his lips. The song ends, their is quietness and emptyness just nothing thats how Im feeling empty and nothing...

have you felt this way?

I have felt it in my many heartaches, I felt to either jump off the bridge or move on and live through the days step by step.Here are some things that has helped me,hope they help you!

• Its okay to grieve for a time, seek support from your friends and family as you come to terms with the changes in your life. allow your yourself to process grief or what your feelin from your situation. Go ahead be angry if you have too,Do not project anger,hurt,guilt at your loved ones or your ex etc, even how tempting it is! But do allow yourself to feel feelings..some people find that sharing their feelings with someone they trust, or having a good cry on a friends or family members shoulder.
• Dont look at past realtionships as failures,but rather as opportunities to learn and improve your relationship skills. Reframe the relationship in our mind. Rather than seeing the relationship as "the one" where we could have recieved love, or could have known so much about each other, or felt the loving was so darn good and no other will compare, it is vital that we see the relationship in different light. No, they wernt " the one"- if they were, it would have worked out far better than it did. what the relationship was, in fact, was a learning experiance.What did we learn? How can we inprove our lives as a result of the experience? What can I take into the next relationship that will be HEALTHY? there are many other people  who we can connect with, many other people who we can connect with, many others who will love us right, and many who might treat us Far better than we ever dreamed, and this reletionship ending was simply a necessity in order to bring the NEW and exciting one in!
• You dont have to be a recluse just because you arent a couple.Treat yourself to and evening out doing something you enjoy.Take along a friend if its not a solo activity. do the things you normally enjoy. Wheither its seeing a movie or going to a concert, do something fun to take your mind off the negative feelings for awhile. Keep yourself busy. sometimes this is diffulcult when your coping with sadness and greif, but it really helps. this is a great time to redocrate your room or tey a new hobbie. that doesnt mean you shouldnt think about what happened- working through in our minds is all part of the healing process- it just means you should focus on other things too.
• Theres more to life than romantic love. take this oportunity to nurture your friends,family and self. our value does not come from who we are with. Our value comes from who we are. Rather than worry about being in a relationship, try creating MANY new relationships, not just lovers, but friends everywhere we go. why do we want to become friends with someone? because we RELATE to them through common interests, because they're nice to us, because they accept us for who we are, and pherhaps shows ways we are special to them. our relationship with a significant other or life partner does not determine our happiness. Our own thoughts determinw our happiness.So, why not choose thinking that will support our highest celebration of our self?  We can treat ourselves to a night out. We can make a point that even we alon can reach out and find ways to connect with other people. Not from  the perspective of what they can do for us, but rather what can we do for them.in doing so the law of abundant returns will automatically kick-in.We realyy dont have to worry about payback.just give out good, relate to others by asking them questions about their life, their interests, compliment their talents, and watch how they light up with a smile.
• Take some time to reevaluate what you need in a relationship. Have you been choosing partners who are not capable of a loving and mature reletionship? Rebuild my life. what makes me smile? what makes me want to get up in morning? what am i truly passionate about? these are the things i need to do again in order to start rebuilding my life and becoming happy and in love with ME again! it has been said, in order to love another we must first love ourself. this is very true. We are living our life on purpose? 
• Be willing to take a another chance on love. like they say you cant win if you cant play. we can make a difference.Why not start by beoming proactive, making a plan for our happiness, and reaching out to love and live again? this time is now? The world if full of oppotunity for you to exspress yourself exactly the way you want to. enjoy and make the most of your unique gift of life, let people know you believe in love and take the time to heal.Eventually, you will meet someone who you will love and more than likely you will look back at this time as when you laid the foundations of a future you truly deserve. best of success to you in healing your heart and loving again!
• Learn to trust yourself. if you care about yourself, the odds are better ,you will attract those you care about you too. Take good care of yourself . a broken heart can be very stressful so dont let the rest of your body get broken too. get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regulary to minimise stress and depression and give your self esteem a boost.recognise the people around us for the blessings they are. Rather than look for how people let us down, look at how people inspire us.look for the good in others.They will help us to reach out and love again. this is also a key to becoming happy again. i read a story about a woman who was depressed.she hadnt been seen at church for a while, and people thought somthing was wrong. then one day a visitor pointed out to her that had this incredible gift of raising violets.why not use this gift and give violets away to make peoples lives more happier.thats exacly what she did. years later scores of people showed up at her funeral, and she bacame known as the violet queen! how can you become queen or king and making a little part of the world a brighter place> we all have unique gifts and talents and even the smallest can make a difference.
• TO BE CONTUINED.............