Sibling Bonds...What is required to have a sibling bond?...

You Know what my kids fight...They fight and argue over meanial things and sometimes the words they use to each other can be hurtful and nasty...There is many a time that I have had to step into the middle of a heated discussion and referee as two or three of my teens have gone at each other...Sometime even heading for the jugular vein...Two teenage girls argueing over a bra and whose it is or over friends and who said what to who...So much so it has gotten to the stage where they have said to each other I HATE YOU...

The councellors we see have told us this is normal fighting between siblings...I HATE YOU are words that are used when kids are soooo angry they can not find something better to say at that time to express their hurt they are feeling...They use it to tell the other person in the argument just how much they are hurt by their actions, or words...

My kids do not Hate each other...This is definately not true at all as with most siblings they will fight and argue...But as I have learnt with my kids and I am suprised that the schools find it so unusual...My kids can fight and argue among themselves and talk about how mean we are as parents to not let them do this or that...But I really feel sorry for anyone else who tries to agree with them or step in and try to say something about their family...Or even try to hurt one of the kids...They can say what they like about their family unit...But look out if an outsider wants to have a go...

This is something that the teachers at the school have found to be weird and unusual...A while back their was an incident that involved Tiana and a 15 year old boy who punched her...John came to her defense and hit this boy and then Aidan also went at him...Michaela then abused him with words...All four of my teens were  there for each other...People find it weird that because John and Tiana and Aidan and Michaela are not biologically related that there is this bond...

Kids that are raised together have this bond and I must say that the fact the kids in this house are all treated the same helps these kids to understand that they are part of the a family unit...Part of this family...Part of our family...A wise person once told me in a comment on one of my advices that family is not recognised my blood...Never.... I feel was a  truer word spoken...

We raise our kids with a bond be it through blood or not...Step siblings, cousins, or just a friends kids...When kids are raised in the same house this bond will happen...And this bond is something you should all be proud your kids have...A bond that can not be or should never be broken...

A sibling bond...John and Tianas dad will go on to them about my children and they will jump to their defence...Their mum will go on about my children and they will jump to their defence...They have tried many a time to break it or weaken it and to no avail...

As long as the circle of life runs the way it should our kids will say goodbye to us and move on into the world eventually burying us and saying goodbye...I am really confident in the fact that my kids will have each other there when I am no longer around...Not only my biological kids but also the other kids I raise in my home... This is something that is completely normal and something that nobody should find abnormal...Or try to interfer in...

So on saying this I better get going and make that way overdue call to my brother...Just to say g'day and tell him I miss him...

Just wanted to share my thougths on this subject again...
Have a great day
Cheers
Angie