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What it means to be a Mean Mum

Anonymous Author (June 2007)

~~I received this in an email from  Kidspot and wanted to share it with my Minti family as its exactly how I feel right now as a MUM and I thought it would be good to remind us what we are fighting for when it come to our
children~~


Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them, as my Mean Mum told me:

I loved you enough to ask where you were going, with whom, and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment and tears in my eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough to let you assume the responsibility for your actions even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough to say NO when I knew you would hate me for it.

Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I won them, because in the end you won, too. And someday, when your children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them. Was your mum mean? I know mine was.

We had the meanest mother in the whole world!
While other kids ate lollies for breakfast , we had to have cereal, eggs and toast.
When others had a soft drink and cake for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches.
And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was different from what other kids had, too.

Mum insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we were doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less. We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of more things for us to do. She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

By the time we were teenagers, she could read our minds and had eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough! Mum wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove up. They had to come up to the door so she could meet them. Because of our mother we missed out on lots of things other kids experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.

Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We are doing out best to be mean parents just like mum was. I think that is what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have enough mean mums!

 
~~I think this says its perfectly  and I wonder If we should all take more time to be a little more mean to our kids..... My son and daughter have learned that when Mummy says no its cause I'm mean (and will tell me so) but I am hopeful in years to come that they will get that i am only this way cause i love them more than life and its for their own good just like my Mum  was mean for my own good~~
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llmunchkin
Friday | llmunchkin
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

This is a lovely poem that is frequently emailed and appears on many blogs and websites online... I think a more appropriate place for it to be posted would be in a personal blog or one of the poetry groups instead of the advice section though.



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alishas-mummy
March 2008 | alishas-mummy
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

awww thats a sweet story !

i wanna cry now :( hehe lol

thanks for sharing !!
xox



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boredmum
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2007 | boredmum
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

I  love that poem, my 8 year old doesn't understand why he isnt allowed to walk to school on his own or ride his bike all around the streets or go to a friends house when I don't know their parents when some of his friends are allowed to, I will be showing him this poem in the morning.

Thank you. Cheers Dee.



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sebcanatalay
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | sebcanatalay
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

I love this poem very much I am going to rea to my son hopefully he'll understand me

Seb



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jd2
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | jd2
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

Great advice so very true my sisters kids are getting to that stage now it funny like looking back at myself a few years ago and befor i know it i will turn into my mother that one who was soooo mean to me...lol

Thanks for sharing Jo xxx



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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | cazza
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum
love this poem  .... thank you for sharing this with us.....


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janicepovey
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | janicepovey
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

Very well said...... excellent advice!

Regards Janice



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luckyone
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | luckyone
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

Hi puala, that good  thanks for sharing it . Its funny though as i just recieve the same e mail in  my  mail today  and send it on  to freinds .

I think just  think its said it perfectly   in today world



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | nell18-3
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum
Thankyou Paula
Loved reading this
xxx


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Shellshell
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Shellshell
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

 Well Done.... great advice!

Thanks for sharing this with us

Shelley



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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Kellzacar
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum

WOW . . This is great

Thanks for sharing it . . .

Cheers Kellz



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hermy
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | hermy
Re: What it means to be a Mean Mum
that is so true......it does say it perfectly.....thank you for sharing......regards Sandra xxx


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