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Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

cookclan by cookclan Young Parent(June 2007) (rank 11th)
Well Something that has gone in this house recently again so I thought I would write a little bit about what we did to help ease the pain for our daughter...You see as your teens  grow up they will become interested in Boys/girls and will start with the whole I
have a boy/girlfriend thing...I am not saying that they will jump into the whole serious side of dating but sooner or later they will...Michaela has just had a pretty serious one...Her first kiss not peck but kiss...This has devastated her the break up has been really hard on her....

Remember when you were young back to the teenage years and how hard living as a teen was...How hard that first break up was...the tears, The pain and the heartache...We can all relate..Most of us still remember our first loves name hehehe...I know I do LOL...

Okay here is some ideas for you...Girls are much different to boys I have had three of them go through the emotions of this now and I would have to say that it is much easier for a girl...Girls seem to want to chat with their friends about it and get support drom all of their friends and to throw themselves back into the friendship circle that having a boyfriend they may have rejected and we as women seem to take them back in and nurture them back into reality and help them feel better about themselves...Your daughter may want to talk about it so be there if she needs to but I do suggest that you just tell her that you are if she wants to talk...

Now boys are much different to girls as they are not as keen to share with their mates the heartache they are feeling...They have this misconception boys do that Boys dont cry...So they either seem to throw themselves into a sport or cry alone in there room or even start to flirt with other girls to try to forget...Boys are more likely to talk to their parents about the hurt they feel so make sure you tell them too that you are there if you need them...

As much as we want to just cuddle them and go around and have a go at the person who broke their heart DON'T...Tell your teens that you will be available to them anytime if they want to talk to you...Breaking up will help your child handle things later in life alot better...Give them their space let them grieve the loss of what they think is the love of their life...

We all thought we would never get past the first heartbreak from a boy/girl But we did and so will they...

Thanks for taking the time to read this...
Have a great day
Cheers
Angie
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sandra106
August 25th | sandra106
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

I am going through this now with my daughter and all the girls have rallied around her this has been one of the hardest weeks of my life and hers I don't like seeing her in so much pain but after a week she is emotional getting better but the young man who broke it off with her is not doing so well he has not told any of his mates and doesn't have any family here he he can talk to and is keeping to himself and we are concerned about him but my son who has been through this had a different outlook when this happened to him and got over it very quickly but he had his family and friends to talk to.



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Bubz101
May 6th | Bubz101
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

im only 14 but i have just recently experienced my first love and my first heart break it was really hard and first i was feeling really upset but then i realised that there was alot of people i could talk to that have been through all this like my mum sister cousin ect.



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liswal
January 2009 | liswal
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

My son turned 18 recently and he has fell in love for the first time. Thanks for the article,,,,I worry about him getting his heart broken,,,,,I guess at this age they have to experience all of lifes ups and downs and we can just try and catch them if they fall



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RimaForev
December 2008 | RimaForev
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

Interesting Info, I still have a 1-Year-Old Daughter, but soon that'll happen to her. Thanks for the advice!



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angelaurz
November 2008 | angelaurz
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

Me and my boyfriend slipt up when we'd been together for about 2 and a half years and my mum was like a rock for me. All i wanted to do was cuddle up in bed and cry. My mum made me get up and go shopping with her and she took me away for a few days to try and cheer me up. It worked  and when i got back i felt so much better and got on with my life.

When my ex heard that i was gettin on with my life and wasn't stil hung up on him he called me to have a go, in the end it turned out that he'd been missing me and we are now trying to start again

I could not of gone through that few weeks that we split up without the help of my mum! She was so good and helped me to get back on track with my life. 

Thankyou Mum! X



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janicepovey
September 2007 | janicepovey
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

Good one, Angie.....I will never forget my first love, even now after so many years.

Janice



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | nell18-3
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
Great article
I've already had to nurse three of mine through this at some stage or another
Even my 13 year old!!!!!!!
xxx


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Shellshell
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Shellshell
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

 Great advice Ang

I have so much to look forward to when they grow up. The 1st heartbreak.... is one that I'm not looking forward to!

 Shelley



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wolonfab
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | wolonfab
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
wow,, first love what a life time ago....

even love is a lifetime ago ...hehehehe

but i remember how a break up felt and it actually shattered my whole existence....... well i was a teen so back then it felt like it... not looking forward to this with my babies...great article Angie


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emmie
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | emmie
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
oh first love um i remember that dreading my girls first love lol well done hunni luv emzx


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Ngairi
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Ngairi
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
It ishard for them isn't it?


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mumof2b
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | mumof2b
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..

You always remember that first break-up........and yes I remember my first boyfriend's name also!!  I'm dreading when my boys get old enough to start having girlfriends...they're going to break my heart!!!!

Great article Angie!!

Amanda



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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Kellzacar
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
Oh I wish I could say I didn't remember back that far . . BUT sadly I do . . . ..

Teen heartbreak lives on way fast your teen years for some and sadly most don't realise that its part of the learning curb. It really annoys me when some ppl tell their kids to "get over it" as thats not helping them to learn anything.

Great article
Cheers Kellz


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hermy
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | hermy
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
great advice Angie......oh how i dread this the only problem is my girl has been going out with her boyfriend for 5 years so really dont look forward to it ......hopefully they never will they are both now 18 going on to 19 and i actually hope they will get married one day.....my boy well he whent through one heartbreak and i almost cried with him.......but deep down inside i was actually glad personally i thought she just wasn't right for him......this girl wouldn't come over to meet us, her excuse was that she wasnot nay good with parents....a;ways thought there was something wrong with that......he has now been going out with a lovely girl for just over 2 years.....they ae very similar and argue all the time.....but now i'm telling you a great big story......thanks for sharing this with us Angie.....thanks.....regards Sandra xxx


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Libby24
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Libby24
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
Excellent Advice there Angie.


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | cazza
Re: Teens and heartbreak...The first Love and the first break up..
great advise angie and i hope michaela feels better soon..... Im not looking foreward to this stage at all with my guys as i would be one of those mums that would want to go and see the ex hehe..


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