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Keeping the lines of communication open...Our greatest tool... |
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by cookclan  (June 2007) (rank 3rd) |
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Have you ever sat there and had a converstion with one of your tweens or teens and things seemed to be going wel then on what seemed like nothing to you they shut down...And that was it Like a door is slammed in your face? Well I know it has
happened to me on a regular basis and I think I have really worked out what it is that I have said at the time...
Keeping the lines of communication open is the most important thing that can be done with your child I think abd one that I think I have done pretty well with so far with my kids but on occasion I might say something that seems to slam that line off like a phone hung up in my ear...
When communicating with you tweens and teens I think it is necessary to use lines that are open ended and are not judgemental in anyway at all for your teen...If they think you are judhing them or evaluating them at all you are in trouble...
Slam down will go the open line again....
These are a few I use in my house with my kids in conversation....
- What so you feel about that Mate?
- Can you give me some more input on that please?
- I am interseted in your point of view on this mate...
- Do you understand that? All of it?
- This is really very important to you isn't it?
I never use things that might look like I am judging them in anyway or things that might get that line of communication shut down or hung up on in my ear...
- That is too bad what you fell about it...I said no...
- I don't want to hear what you have to say on this...
- Stop telling me more and more I don't care what other kids are doing...
- I dont care how importnant it is to you... tough...
See how different those things can sound and leave your child feeling sort of not important in the whole thing...
Keep the lines of communication open with your tweens and teens and reap the rewards when they get older...I am starting to get some now...Just some lol...
Just wanted to share this with you all again thanks for reading...
Have a great day
Cheers
Angie
