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A well respected member here on minti asked me to post this after they read it in my blog...........
After the recent happenings on minti it got me thinking...... have people forgotten that it's just not words on a screen but another form of conversation with someone??
??? There is someone at the end of what you write, you don't know them, you don't what they have experienced, your words can do damage. It's not what you are saying, most of us here have enough respect for another persons opinion, it's how you word it that can be the real problem. All we have is the words in front of us, we don't know if they are said in anger, frustration, love and so on. What we all put on the screen is open to interpretation by everyone and whether you choose to put it in a blog, group, advice etc it's open to the rest of us to make a comment. You are after all putting it on a public space where opinions, thoughts, experiences are wanted, isn't this why minti was set up in the first place?????
We all have our own belief systems, our own way of parenting and different experiences that make us who we are. Some of us are willing to see anothers point of view, some of us are going to believe that we are right no matter what. It comes down to a basic level of respect and understanding. Just try it and see what happens. The moment you choose to try and understand the more you may find yourself opening up to new experiences, a different way of thinking. Instead of focusing on just one thing try and look at the bigger picture. There are some mum's out there that had no problems with their pregnancy or breast feeding etc but then there are some that went through hell and still are. There are some people that are so staunch in whatever the subject is they are not open to the possibilty that there could be another way. For me, I would rather believe in things but be OPEN to the possibilty of different way. Who am I to say what is right for any other parent no matter how much scientific research has been done??? Sure I could back up an argument with reems of scientific research but I'm someone who really doesn't like having someone else opinion shoved down my throat so why would I do that???? Isn't up to ourselves to choose what we feel is right for us and our children?? Scientific research, is just that, research. It's forever changing and maybe some of us should look into beginning to change as well.
At the end of it all, there is a 20,000 human beings on this site not 20,000 comuters. All of us have thoughts, feelings, emotions and the words you choose to use can lift someone up or tear them down without you even realising it. I'm not saying don't voice your opinion, far from it, all I'm asking is that you consider how you are saying your opinion. The other person is not in the room with you, they can't see you and you can't see them. It's near impossible to gauge how anyone is feeling when all we have is words to go on. Some people can describe things easier than others, some people have a hard time giving themselves a voice.
A wise person once said that "the pen is mighter than the sword"...... maybe we all need to take a moment and think about that. A sword can cause harm in an instant and the wound can be seen but the pen can harm in ways that no one can see.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
fi xox
(June 2007) (
... judgment is a curse, understanding is a gift and i waffle too much! aside from that red button in some far off presidents office, words control our world (it is a falicy that money does because words can get or lose you that too)... they are both our greatest allie and our worst enemy. *and thus, the two walk to the peak of the hill "and we must fight to keep our words without doubt and judgment, so follow the path wariors and battle for your cause!" the noble calls over the masses who now congregate below "to battle!"* .......................do you like my role play??? well i though it was a creative use of words... :)'s you have been MAB'd!!!
Amanda xxx
