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I have been reading a lot of questions latery about mental abuse of childres in split familys.
Everybody has been giving good advice from a parents point of view. THANK YOU
But now I'm going to give you an idea what it is like from the childs point
of view because nobody can really understand unless you are that child.
this is a story of a child with a spilt family
Ihave been given permission by this person to tell this story because they don't want to see this happen agin
there are no name in this story for privecy.
as a young child you had a step mum and a step dad everything was going fine to begin with then all of a sudden you wern't visiting your dad and stepm, you wern't told why you were 7 so you didn't say anything. so everything went along as it always did then all of a sudden at 8 1/2yr old you were sat on the couch and asked "where do you want to live" and you just sat there not knowing what to say and told "tell me now". now this child had 30 seconds to make a choice. now on one side you had a mum and stepd fighting all the time and on the other side a dad and stepm treating you like a princess(found out many years later this was planned by them.)What would you do ?
So you move that afternoon to your dad and stepm house your mum not talking to you not looking at you doesn't evan say good bye all your stuff from your life in black garbdge bags left on a door step of ppl who arn't evan home crying your eyes out thinking you had done somthing really bad hoping that your dad and stepm will take you in because they did'nt know all this was happing. thinking your mum hated you.But they do take you in and cheer you up. everything is going along fine for about 3 mounths.Then everything changed you are treted as a problem child sent to a child phycolgist who you are tod by him that everything said stayed with him and he wouldn't tell anybody so you tell him everything bleed your heart to him about everything. Then about a mounth later you work out he is telling your stepm every word you say which is getting you in more trouble your not alowed to see you mum while all this is going on your put in the same school as your step brothers who the youger one (who is 6 muonths older then you) is making problems for you so you tell and told don't lie you bad girl. You were kept down a class so you wern't in the same class as your brother (evan tho you had better marks then he did ) in that first year your stepm has a baby girl. so you start to get ignored you think thank god for that.
During this time you are growing evan tho they have the money to buy everybody else new clothes you get everything and i mean everything from the op-shop your the joke of the school because your uniform was your brothers and about 6 sizes too big. Your allowed to see your mum and she sees your socalled good clothes and goes out and buys you $800 worth of clothes you are so happy. You take your clothes home with the dockets just incase somthing goes wrong with them. Your stepm is so angry she yells and screams at you saying your a lier and you took your everyday clothes so your mum would do this(evan tho your stepm packed your bags). She takes all the clothes back and keeps the money for herself.It keeps going on like this for years till your 13 and you run away from home back to your mum's house.
A child will always have fantsy of there parents being back together doesn't matter how good the setpmother is.
a second wife will always want to be better than the first don't try too hard because there is a reason he married you accept that
Plz treat all the children as if you birthed them
if one person tells you somthing and another tells you somthing else don't take sides don't yell talk to the child they always have reasons for things you will be surprised
The person i talk about in this story never had a childhood at the age of 8 this person had too grow up very fast and this person has asked me too say this
PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ DON'T LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOUR CHILD.
(June 2007) (
