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Hi guys .. Anyone ever heard of this? probably not as i hadn't heard of it either but it happened to me in my first pregnancy.
I found out at 5 weeks that i was having twins i was shocked but very happy then i went in for a
scan at about 7-8 weeks and seen my 2 little beans jumping around like crazy they were fraternal and i knew straight away that it was a boy and a girl,i listened to their little hearts thumping.
i had to come back at 10 weeks for an ultrasound to make sure they were growing well... WE spread the news we were having 2 babies.. how exciting.
I went to the next scan with bated breath i couldn't wait to see how much they had grown... i had been cramping a bit and they told me thats normal with a twin pregnancy especially in a first pregnancy because everything has to stretch really fast.
The sonographer started the scan and immediatly i noticed there was only 1 baby she looked every where there was only 1 heart beat too.. i started sobbing and crying and was asked if i had any bleeding and i said no just the cramping.. the doctor came to see me and had a look for himself - looked me straight in the face and said " this happens quite often the baby is gone, you have a healthy child on the way, just be happy with what you have" he offered no advice nor did he explain how this could happen.. i never bleed i had no symptoms but my cramping. i was very confused and had no answers.
i got told to suck it up and thats what i did for three years(three years of feeling like i was missing someone and being suddenly hit with waves of sadness and not understanding why i felt this way) and then a very good friend of mine had the same thing happen but got all the information given to her..
its called vanishing twin syndrome and practically what happens is that the twin dies and instead of all the classic signs of a miscarriage that baby gets re-absorbed by your body, this helped me greatly i was able to grieve my baby and get a little bit of closure.
Here are some great links if you want to read up on this..
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/multiples/vanishingtwin.html (this is the best one)
http://multiples.about.com/cs/medicalissues/a/vanishingtwin.htm
http://multiples.about.com/cs/medicalissues/a/vanishingtwin.htm
i hope everyone who looks at this can get some valuable information that can maybe help some one one day..
(June 2007) (
Shelley
