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My son & his Battle with Anxiety..pt 1 |
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Anonymous Author (June 2007) |
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My son has a severe case of Anxiety Disorder. The child I carried and nurtured for 9 months. The son I cuddled to sleep and burped and watched over while he slept night after night has excessive worry and tension about a number of different things in his
life…. And a lot of the time this manifests in physical pain as he struggles with migraines, stomachaches, temporary loss of limb function etc. It’s true that every child has some fear in varying degrees. My daughter hates my voice when I raise it in anger and this is a normal fear of childhood while in my son's case his fears are not. When he struggles with his anxiety I am there to try and sooth away his worry but when this worry is affecting your baby it’s the hardest thing in the world to deal with, cause anxiety in my eyes belongs to adulthood…it’s like a rite of passage
There is nothing wrong with a child being afraid of a lawn mower for a season or a siren when it’s unexpected. This is healthy and something all children go through at some early stage of their childhood. Fear teaches our kids not to talk to strangers or to stay out of the medicines or to keep their hand in ours when they cross the road…. In my son's case though he is responding to an imaginary danger. His fear is becoming so great at times that is paediatrician says it borders on phobia. They says that half the teens who jig from school have a form of anxiety or depression and this goes hand in hand with their failing grades and drinking or using drugs.
My son at present doesn’t want to go to school… He is paranoid that the kids and his teacher are out to get him… He hates the whole school experience as he cant handle being told what to do and he works himself up into such a state that he is stressed before he has even left the house… He goes to the sick bay with stomach pain when his anxiety overwhelms… He swears or lashes out when he feels attacked or blocked in or scared….he is sent from the room when his noises become too much for the class to deal with (which I think is very cruel)…. He tries so hard the cope that when he walks out of school he lets lose with a years worth of over the top scary behaviour…
With my son I finally gave in and went back to my son’s paed cause life was overwhelming for us all. His symptoms are interrupting his life … so let me say to you its important to get help if your child
- is struggling at school,
- struggling in social situations
- struggling at home…
- is not sleeping,
- hiding in his/her room alone,
- is worrying compulsively
Even if it’s just to put your mind at ease..Your child may just be a worrier but at least you will know…Real Anxiety causes a lot of problems in our young ones…. my son has various ailments such as nausea, stomach aches, loose bowels, weakness in the body, inability to breathe, It can raise his blood pressure and heart rate
I have had to learn a lot with my son and his way of worrying about the world. I have had to finally get that His anxiety is not going to go away… I can tell him not to worry and try to take away those things that cause him to worry but he is always going to be this way… he has to learn how to walk through life with this…it’s a part of him that he cant control just like his autism…I have had to watch as his worries get bigger and I go through his list of worries every night … I get frustrated but if I don’t reassure him he wont sleep. I have finally "got" that there is NO magic cure. I can’t fix him or his anxiety
In part 2 i will explain what types of anxiety there are and how to tell if your child has the symptoms
