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Help! After two 1/2 years of the same girl teasing and harrasing my daughter of eight, I have come to the point where I feel like grabbing this girl by the ears and approaching her mother to let her know what a nasty dirty little b@#*! she has been. The school has not been able to curb this girl's behaviour and I'm not to sure that they believe that there is anything going on. Whilst boys hit and punch, leaving physical evidence, girls leave emotional scarring. My daughter is a very pretty, caring and intelligent girl who has formed wonderful freindships at this school.Leaving is not an option for her. She does not see why she should leave her friends when she has done nothing wrong. Yet it only takes the consant verbal abuse of one girl to squash self confidence.This little girl never works alone, of course bullies are cowards and never really amount to anything in life. But as it is happening now, and scarring my daughter now! what do I do? I have given her all the tools I can think of, from ignoring everything and walking away, to turning around and sticking up for herself without being physical though she has the abilty. My daughter refuses to name call as she believes that will make herself lower than this ratty dirty girl!!! What do I do now to help my daughter???? Angry and Desparate
OH I went through that with two of my chldren last year. My eight year old was picked on in K and then last year in second grade. My daughter is also very pretty, Sensitive, and loyal. I give her the best. I had boys teasing pulling and hitting. Saying wrong things and girls telling her clothes were outta style and kicking her in and out of the groups. My daughter ended up suffering from depression and still is. It took me going blazing mad into the school(calm as I could be), and refusing to lease until solutions were started to take place. KIds were expelled, punished and they had group meeting with the kids envolved. Parents had to come up to the school. Ofcourse some kids went in to doing it worse. My first grader was bullied and hurt at the play groung everyday, As I was dealing with my daughter, I had my son put in twice a week councilling at the school and had the boys sent home with parents called a group talking and all, but it took a while to realize I had to infact go up there and not be turned a way . Kids do deal with daily stuff we can't sheild them from but not like this. I know it sounds drastic but we moved! The school board needs to be called and written to and the school too. I would find therapy for the damage that has been done and self esteem should be risen abit from that but also lots of extra love and praise. It breaks my heart to know that our chldren take critisizm and being beat up, and at school!?! I went through it too, and it took moving which isn't always an option. You are doing great by helping her help herself but I really feel you should contact her school board and school and if you write them they should have so many days to respond but every school is different.
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BULLIES
MY SON WHO WILL BE 11 THIS YEAR HAS BEEN BULLIED ALL THROUGH SCHOOL. HE IS A QUIET GENTLY LOVING SOUL, AND IT BREAKS MY HEART TO SEE HOW CRUEL KIDS CAN BE FOR NO REASON OTHER THAN THE FACT THAT HE IS A BIT DIFFERENT .THERE ARE A NUMBER OF REASONS WHY HE IS PICKED ON. 1) HE WEARS GLASSES, 2) HE IS HUSKY, 3) HE DOES NOT LIKE SPORTS, 4) HE LIKES SCIENCE AND COMPUTERS. 5) HE SUFFERS FROM ADHD/ODD ANDIS AN IDENTIFIED STUDENT ON A SPECIAL PROGRAM IN SCHOOL. LAST YEAR I HAD HAD ENOUGH, HE WOULD COMEHOME CRYING AND THE PRINCIPAL DID NOTHING. TEACHERS INGORED WHAT WAS HAPPENING ON THE SCHOOL YARD. SO MY HUSBAND AND I TOOK MATTERS INTO OUR OWN HANDS, WE ENROLLED HIM IN A TAI KWON DO CLASS FOR 6 MONTHS. WHAT A CHANGE IN HIM THAT MADE! HE IS NOW CONFIDENT AND NO LONGER AFRAID OF THE BULLIES! WE TOLD HIM THAT HE IS NOT ALLOWED TO USE HIS SKILLS TO HURT OR PICK ON OTHER KIDS, IT IS JUST THE KNOWLEDGE THAT HE CAN TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF, AND IGNORE WHAT THE KIDS SAY TO HIM. JUST THE OTHER DAY A BOY IN OUR NEIGHBOURHOOD SAID "YOUR GAY BECAUSE YOU WEAR GLASSES" MY SON REPLIED "YEP I AM VERY HAPPY BECAUSE MY FAMILY LOVES ME!" i WAS VERY PROUD OF HIM FOR THAT ANSWER. HE WAS TAUGHT TO WALK AWAY, AND EVEN THOUGH THE WORDS ARE MEAN AND THEY HURT, THEY ARE ONLY WORDS! AS LONG AS WE AS PARENTS CAN TALK TO OUR KIDS ABOUT BULLIES WE CAN HELP THEM . LET THEM CRY LET THEM SCREAM LET THEM GET ANGRY, AT LEAAST WE KNOW THAT THEY ARE STILL FEELING. REASSURE THEN THAT IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THEM AND IF THEY EVEN ONEY HAVE ONE FRIEND, MADE IT A POINT TO HAVE THAT FRIEND OVER TO PLAY OR HANGOUT OR WHATEVER AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE. BULLYING IS SERIOUS, AND SOME KIDS HAVE TAKEN THEIR LIVES BECAUSE OF IT. THE SCHOLLS NEED TO BE MADE AWARE THAT TIS IS NOT SOMETHING TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY, AND IF THE TEACHER OR PRINCIPAL WILL NOT LISTEN, THEN TAKE IT TO THE SUPERVISOR AT THE BOARD OF EDUCATION. TELL THEM YOU ARE TALKING TO A LAWYER AND DO IT. AS I SAID IT IS SERIOUS AND KIDS ARE GETTING HURT. TELL YOUR KIDS THEY ARE LOVED AND LISTEN, AND WATCH THEIR BEHAVIOUR FOR CHANGES. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER, AND TRY THE TAI KWON DO IF FOR NOTHING ELSE BUT TO BOOST HER CONFIDENCE!
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