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Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaviour and how to protect you kids.

cheekymonkey by cheekymonkey Talking(July 2007) (rank 96th)

 

One of the hot topics on minti lately has ben about pedophiles and child sex offenders. The info I am providing you here is from class notes I have taken in my studies and came from a child safety manager and former corrections employee. Some of the info

may be very general, and there is always the one who is outside the supposed profile, so don't bag me for minor generalisations please. I have done this in bullets points so it is easier to read as there is quite a lot of info.

Child Sex Offender CSO - one who is actually convicted of sex crime/s against a child/children.

Pedophile - is a clinical diagnosis of a paraphelia of the nature of attraction to children.

There are two types of offenders:

opportunistic offend randomly in public to unknown, unsupervised children.

predator is known to the victim, they groom the child and create a sense of dependancy.

CSO Facts

  • 99% are male, 89% are known to the victim
  • predators are very manipulative, articulate and patient (generally)
  • they wait until they have the victims trust before they act
  • they have power/authority over the child and make them feel special/important
  • they have hobbies that are of interest to children
  • choose to volunteer/work in child related areas
  • try to partener with the parents of the children they are attracted to
  • they seek out children with similar characteristics (eg an attraction to children with long dark hair and freckles )
  • seek out children with previous history of abuse or neglect (eg children of parents with hard drug dependancies are easy targets)
  • Sometimes they have thier own history of being abused
  • they are socially enept with those of thier own age group
  • move frequently ( a common occupation is truck driving)
  • They become involved in the activities thier victim is involved in
  • they have an idealised/romanticised vision of the child
  • predators seek out children starved of attention

Grooming of a victim

  • exploitation of trust
  • they isolate the victim from thier supports (family, friends)
  • exploite influence on the victim and make themselves more important than thier parents
  • they provide expensive gifts, outings and holidays
  • they desensitise the child to nudity, sexual material and touch
  • they then advance to physical contact on demand ( the child will recognise a signal, word, expression or behaviour from the offender as a cue)
  • these signals may be as subtle as a grunt
  • they then increase the victims dependance on the offender
  • they use threats post-offence to co-erce the child not to tell about the act

Signs to look out for

  • signs of grooming can be hard to detect but here are some to be aware of
  • the child is given age innappropriate gifts eg lingerie
  • anxiety levels of victims are noticible when discussing the offender
  • child performs complex or unusual behaviour on demand
  • the child is overly concerned with thier safety
  • the child disengages from the conversation if it becomes too sensitive for them to handle (just stares at the wall and completely blocks out the conversation)
  • they may change topic or decide they have to look for something
  • display agression
  • they may withdraw from family, friends, activities
  • may display self-harm, self-mutilation, talk about death
  • may discard hygiene practises in an effort to make themseles less attractive

A child usually will not diclose the abuse until it stops or is discovered. These may be brought on by a break created away from the offender.

I hope this info helps some one and provides a little insight into thier behaviours.

I only have one other thing to add.

Never, ever force a child to show affection or approach someone they don't want to. This makes them feel that adults have the right to control them and their body.

 

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mrshappy
July 2008 | mrshappy
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaviour and how to protect you kids.

Another indicator that a very young child is being sexually abused can be seen in pictures or paintings they produce. Look for the over use of what are classified as angry colours such as black, red and purple as well as the way in which they depict themselves and others(possibly the offender)in their artwork . A child who is being sexually abused will often portray themselves with no hands, arms or mouth and floating whereas the offender or other adults are on the ground. The offender will often be portrayed with over sized or pronounced  hands and or arms and the genitalia may be also depicted. This is not to say that every young child that paints using red or one of the other colours is being abused however it is just another indicator to keep an eye out for if the child consistantly uses these colours combined with the other things I have mentioned.



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sarahkate2202
August 2007 | sarahkate2202
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaviour and how to protect you kids.
god advice, but i dont think you should narrow down to common profession such as truck driving... these bar%ts are in every pofeesion and all walks of life.


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      cheekymonkey
August 2007 | cheekymonkey
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaviour and how to protect you kids.
I was only giving a breif example of a common occupation that these type of people may be employed in. I have stated that many of the characteristics etc are general and not every one of them are the same. I never said they were only employed in certain occupations, simply possibiltites of common occupations.


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emmie
August 2007 | emmie
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaviour and how to protect you kids.

great advice

cheers x



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nell18-3
August 2007 | nell18-3
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaviour and how to protect you kids.
Great and very informative
xxx


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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.
Great advice the rate of sexual offences against children is unbelievable, and we must do all we can to empower our children in regard to their bodies, and their own personal space.

They must feel that they can approach us about anything, and that we will always be willing to listen, and protect them no matter what someone else tells them.


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janicepovey
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | janicepovey
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.

Excellent advice, article!  Very well written and some great points. But it is a real shame such advice has to be written, at all!

Regards Janice



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mumofjtcb
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | mumofjtcb
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.
99% are male, 89% are known to the victim

This is going by how many males actually report that they were abused by females. I believe the actual statistics are higher with female CSO's but they aren't reported enough.


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      cheekymonkey
August 2007 | cheekymonkey
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.
Absolutely. Information can only be assessed on what is reported and documented. Therefore those that are not reported remain a danger in the community.


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mumof2b
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | mumof2b
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.

Fantastic Article cheekymonkey............I always tell my boys they don't have to hug people/family members if they don't want to. It gives them control over their own body and makes them more aware of their feelings.

Amanda



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hermy
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | hermy
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.
i so agree with your last comment......i have always tried to teach my children they have the right to say NO.......thanks for sharing all this information......it's great.......regards Sandra xxx


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | cazza
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.
that is very interesting and yes there is a lot of studys on this in child care for sure, so dont feel bad that you have wrote this, as its great information for parents to know and recognise.....

So i say well done and hope you go well in your studies...


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      cheekymonkey
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | cheekymonkey
Re: Child sex offenders and pedophiles; their behaivour and how to protect you kids.
Thanks cazza. I tried to make sure the terminology I used was correct by using words like generally or usually. Just so that people would understand that not all victims and all offenders display the exact same behaviours. But these are the most common and predominant.


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