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I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

cheekymonkey by cheekymonkey Talking(July 2007) (rank 96th)

Lots of people spend time in prison for many different reasons. It can range from minor offences such as unpaid fines to serious crimes like child sex offences. It is more than likely that most of us know or know of someone who has been incarcerated. Whilst most are not

proud of this they will tel you why and where the spent there sentence when asked. What do you or someone you know, do if you meet someone or start a relationship with someone and you just feel that there is a part of thier life they aren't telling you about? Is there something in thier behaviour that makes you or your kids uncomfortable? Have they been in prison and won't tell you why? Here are some tips to help.

Post-prison release.

Release from prison does not mean "Rehabilitated". CS  offenders who serve thier full sentence have usually maintained denial that they have done anything wrong throughout thier sentence. Those who have been granted parole have have taken part in education programs etc.

Here are some question to ask:

  • where did they serve thier time? Certain prisons are 100% protection prisons where these offenders are accomodated, they are not general population prisons. eg in QLD  Wolston and Palin Creek Correctional Centres
  • What time did they serve?
  • do they have a relapse plan?
  • ASK to see the relapse plan
  • if they have NOT got a relapse plan then they have not completed/attended a rehabilitation course.
  • what are thier mandatory reporting conditions?
  • is thier current partener aware of their offending history?

As I have stated before, just because they have been in prison it doesn't mean they are rehabilitated. It's near impossible to rehabilitate someone who doesn't believe they have done anything wrong.

 

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EMCEYSMOM
June 2008 | EMCEYSMOM
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

If a man cant tell you the deal why bother having him in your life. Its a no brainer to me.



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nikki355
May 2008 | nikki355
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

Well its been a while since you wrote this so I really hope that you found out your information from all the comments and most importantly the guy.  Hope everything turned out good.

 



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milko-fats
April 2008 | milko-fats
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

I would try Googling to see if there is any news from police reports on his conviction. Fingers crossed as it is something you need to know



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libbyleigh
April 2008 | libbyleigh
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

Hi if he is not prepared to tell you why he was in prison, then he has got something to hide, if he loves tyou and wants to spend his life with you he should be honest and up front with you, he is not doing the right thing , you will always be wondering what he has done, it could be murder, rape, armed robbery, i dont think you should take a chance on this guy unless he is up fron with you, he is already proven to be sly and not honest,



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Arna
April 2008 | Arna
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

It is tough to go through for all concerned, and I'm sure this will be of great help to some.



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lisam
April 2008 | lisam
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

Great story thanks...........................reguards lisam



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ellamia
November 2007 | ellamia
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
Thats scary in all ways thanks for sharing this article

Love Kell


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mumofjtcb
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | mumofjtcb
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
It is a scary thought. They should put all the CS offenders in one prison on some middle of nowhere island and let them all rot till death.


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | cazza
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
wow that was well written and so true, i do know a few people that keep on reoffending and its sad, but they feel its the easier way out, 3 meals  a day, a warm bed, and smokes provided, not the sort of life i would like.... I only knoe them , but dont associate with them as its not the sort of thing i want my kids to think its ok ...

Some times i feel that if they just try rehab maybe they would become better person....


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hermy
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | hermy
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
great advice....well said.....regards Sandra xxx


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lonely28
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | lonely28
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
wow is all I can say!!!! Thank you for a really informative article, fantastic job!!!!

hugs,

fi xoxo


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emmie
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | emmie
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?

Great advise but not all child abusers go to prison some get away with it .

thanks emz x



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blackwidowkate
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | blackwidowkate
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
Hi
I love a man  in uniform heheeheh
Luv Deb


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cookclan
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | cookclan
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
Really well written BUT there is no way to find out if they are an offender alot of the people who are sex offenders do not get caught for what they do...If that makes sense...As you say alot deny too..Thanks for sharing...
Cheers
Angie


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Ngairi
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | Ngairi
Re: I've met someone who has spent time in prison and they won't tell me why...how do find out if they are a child sex offender?
Well written, didn't know about the relapse plan. Not that I have come across anyone like that, but good to know anyway.


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