Life Changes - take time and don't miss a bit!

One Minti Mum said where has the time gone my babies aren't babies anymore!  Looking back and looking forward I see change - ever happening change and I think that this is the momentum of life. DINKS - Double Income No Kids and thinking a full time job was hard

to juggle. Hormonal surge at  28 oh no!  Ah yes 'here it is in the paper' says hubby. At 28 women without kids get a hormonal kick from the Universe so by 31 we have a new baby and two full time jobs plus juggling baby care.

The carer is wonderful and loves my son.   All the advice says make sure the baby fits in with your life style! Hello who got that wise - it didn't happen because a baby is another person with their own mind plus this one was different. Gee life as DINKS was easy but would I change what I have done? NO. And then SURPRISE!!! Breast feeding does not ensure infertility and bingo we are on the way again. Scared - Oh yeah I had the german measles! I rang the doctor and the assistant said no you will be fine you have immunity. Phew!!!  Working full time, baby care for one and very pregnant with another but it is OK. Four months pregnant and I go to the lovely Doctor who delivered my first baby. "What do you mean you are immune!!!! Shock horror the immunity drops off suddenly after the first birth. I wait in agony for the results after being told we may have to terminate. Four weeks later I get the all clear and go on to have son number two - who came out running - legs out straight and 24" long. I take him home and suffer a 'wierd' feeling - I get these and hubby is use to me now! I bring son number two (3 days old) into our bedroom much to my hubby's dislike. I insisted - something felt 'weird'. Wake up at 1am with rattling noises coming from the cot - I pick him up and he is blue and strangling to death. You little shit! I went into a rage because I had gone through so much to get him I was mad at him for trying to leave. What hormones can do huh! So I smacked him hard - really hard and he got so mad he screamed! A placid baby - not this time thankfully and all the stuff that he was drowning in came out and spurted all over the place. He turned pink and we all were crying - what a noise!

Three months down the track and I wake up and hear the same noise so I rush to No. 2 wake him up - he starts crying. No he is alright so I wake No. 1 up and he starts crying - he is OK. So I rush and wake hubby up and now everyone is crying again. Would I change that? NO but I would like to strangle the possum under my window that made that noise! Would I trade that moment - back then maybe but now? No. Would I trade the nightmare dream of him drowning at two. NO. I found him tetering on the edge of the neighbours pool the next day just like the nightmare. NO and hubby takes all my 'weird' things more seriously now!

Hey time flys - life changes - look into their eyes long and lovingly because what come next is unpredictable, sometimes funny, sometimes heart renching, some times very enriching and all life changing. I found out that people are wonderful because when I needed help 72 fine people walked into my life to help me. And I found  a book called 'Son Rising' by Barry Kaufman, which was all about their journey with Roan through autism. So much like what we went through. I cried right through the book and then I wrote to him about what we had done and how life chnaging it was. He wrote back - a letter of such support and encouragement from a man running such a huge undertaking.  What a buzz - the human spirit in full flight - awesoome - tiring but awesome. I am fortunate to have two special children who have put us throught the hoops. Would I change that? NO. I look up into their eyes and think what was I thinking when were planning on just being DINKS? Treasure the ups, downs and spin arounds - because that is life changing.