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Final chapter- The life of being a foster child and how my life turned out.. |
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by cazza  (July 2007) (rank 2nd) |
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First i like to say thankyou for all the support and comments i have received from all my articles and hope that it has helped the community understand foster care a bit better...
So now i would like to share my life as many of you would know  that i was a foster child and i think its important for you all understand where i come from ..
18 years ago i was placed in care and it was due to my mum abusing me and had cut my eye open with a totem tennis bat... Now my mum had a history of child abuse and was reported heaps of times as i have 3 older sisters., and the only reason that they didnt go into care as they ran away from home and moved into their boyfriends once they turned 16...
So the day i went into care i was led to the doctors surgery and had 50 stitches in and was questioned by a child protection worker to where they were taking me... Now i was 14 at the time, but was like a 6 year old as i was never allowed to be mature and be my age as my mother had issues with teenage girls.....
So the first place i went to was a group home and there was couple, and they were so big against me, and i was petrified, and they were so kind,. I had lots of court cases and this couple stuck by me and really took me in and helped me say enough was enough..
So 6 months after i went to live with them i was declared a ward of the state and never to return home.... I stayed with this couple alll up 8 months and then something happened and they lost their carers home and so then i went to a another group home..
The next home was very diffrent as their was boys and girls there, so that was very scary for me as the boy gave me the creeps... I stayed with them for 6 months and then they found me a foster family out of town as thats where i wanted to go as far as possible from my mum...
At this home the couple had 2 of their own children and were very church family,. they welcomed me in their homes and made heaps of promises, but the one thing that made me uncomfortable was their son as he felt i was taken over their home... so i stayed with them for a few months and did return to the group home on occcasions to help me adjsut being in a family....
So i went and stayed permently with this family for 12 months and it was hard and sometimes at times.... During that time i had contact with my natural family and decided that i give my mum a another chance, my older sister at the time was preganant, and i wanted it so much to be a auntie.... So i decided to leave my foster family and move in with my sister and her hubby to help them with their little boy, so that worked out for about 8 months and then one day my bil sleazed on to one of my gfs, and my sister blamed me and had my dad chuck me out on the streets... So from there i went back to a group home and shortly after that they found me a lady that was single and wanted a girl like me, that sadly didnt work out as she was all for the money....
So at that stage i thought im tired of all this and met a girl at college and she was in care as well, and we decided we would get a unit together, and so the docs helped us set up a unit, and we lived with each other for 12 months as well, sadly that didnt work out as we got into a bad crowd and my life was threatened by a very viciuos guy...So the docs quickly moved me back in protective care and i was placed back at a group home,....
Well that was the best thing that could have happened for me. as the couple was so lovely, and they had teens as foster girls and for the first time ever i felt that i belonged... They also had children of their own.... So it was great.... The stupied thing i ever did was that my best frend conned me to move in with her and her sister and so my foster mum tried to talk me out of it, and i didnt listen, and so i went out and tried to do it on my own... Also at that stage i was near the age to be discharged from docs, and thought i better grow up.... Sadly that didnt work living with those girls, but i did meet my hubby and my foster parents were so supportive and encouraged me to move in with him and leave all the bad eggs behind..
So thats what i did, mick and i moved in with each other after 6 months of seeing each other, and my foster parents were always there for us... When we got married they were there as my parents and when i gave birth to my children they were there, and i feel thats what parents are meant to be like and i am truly honoured and proud that i was able to find such caring and understanding people that gave me the oppurnitys to give back to the young ones today and know that i have made a difference..
So my biggest advise is, Make sure that if you are considerng foster care, that child may become one of yours, and always remember that those children aint bad and need a loving home just like i was given at the end..
Thankyou
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