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Re: new stepmom
Asked by newmomof3
Question:
I am a new stepmom of two beautiful children. They are ages 2 and 4, and they are very trying, but I love them more than amything. I am only 23, and my husband is 24 Yes,
he started early! My husband and I are expecting our first child at the end of this month and I am soooo excited. The kids are too but I dont think they really understand that the baby is really coming out of my belly! My concern is that the children call me by my first name, which is no problem with me personally, but I don't want them to feel that I am partial to the new baby or that i love her more than them. The childrens' mother is around when it is convienient for her, and she is the tyoe that will mentally damage them any way that she can. She even gave the 2 year old spankings for saying my name at her house. She has been diagnosed bipolar and I do not want to damage the children or give her any reason to try and hurt them. I would love for them to call me mommy- I just dont know what is best??? please help!
My Advice:
I took my stepdaughter on at an early age and have been there through her whole life , i can relaate to you in so much of this first off i must say congratulations .
When i was expecting my daughter chloe , i was worried i was going to show more love and affection to the baby and that mystep daughter would get jealous who at the time was 3 , but coming up to the birth i sat her down and told her mummys baby was going to come out of mummys belly soon , and when sheis ready to come out mummy will have to go to the hospital with daddy and grampy will be looking after you , but as soon as mummys baby has arrived you can come and bring your baby sister a nice present (i used 1 of kylies teddies which they both seem to play with all the time ) you will be amazed how well they take it at such a young age.
Personally i never taught kylie to call me mummy she called me it by herself , it would obviously be their choice to call you mummy , as thats what what it all boils down to . But i thinmk that if you are the one bringing these children up i believe you deserve to have them call you mummy , but to keep your relationship going and no jelousy i would strongly advice you to geet tour step children to help you out with baby , kylie also sees her mother when it suits her , and now she ha s decided she does not want to speak to her at all as she has now discovered who is best for her bless .
If yuou are ever in doubt as to wheather their mother is hurting them , you need to go to health visitor , doctor , social services , police , all of these will help you , hope this has answered your questions if you have any more dont be affraid to ask
I wish you all the best with it
(July 2007) (
Lexi xxx
