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4.99 (Highly recommend) from 28 votes (218 Visits)

When a parent goes away

Anonymous Author (July 2007)

Being an Army wife i am getting used to having my husband go away alot. My children don't think it's fun at all. My advice to other families where one parent goes away for work is to......... stick to the same routine as you would when the partner is home.

We tape record my hubby reading certain books for the kids and they listen to the tapes whenever they miss daddy and before bed as he tucks them in when he is home. I tell them that even though daddy is not home he loves them very much and will be home soon....

Daddy also buys them something special from where he has been even if he is away for a couple of nights whether it be a chocolate or a teddy bear. The hardest thing is hearing ' when is dad coming home' as i know they miss him dearly when he is away and i can't answer the question alot of the time. I just have to keep reassuring them that it will be soon. Also have the parent who is away tape something special for you so you can stay sane as it can get quite lonely.

Write lots of letters to the away parent and send them or keep them for when they get back so they know what has been happeneing whilst away.We make a scrapbook when daddy goes away and the kids give it to him when he returns so he knows what the kids have done and what's been happening while he has been gone. Not only do the kids get excited in making the book, The parent who is away really knows it was made with love and care, But also gets excited reading it with the children. Another idea is get the children to make a certificate for the parent with a special message so they can take it next time the have to work away from the home..

Most importantly.... Take lots of photos to share every moment captured will have a special meaning to both the children and parents.

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	November 13th \| mammabee

Re: When a parent goes away

its wierd living in two different like sets of lives. my litle one is acting out because her father and i have different rules

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	November 12th \| breaker

Re: When a parent goes away

Thats great advise i wish this site was up when my children were small , i did not do that sort of stuff and we lived two different lives when ever my husband came home which was once a month for the weekend he worked 500kms away so he could only come home one weekend we would do everything different anyway when i decided to move so we could live together then came all the different rules and it was allot to get used to it is different when there is only one parent

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	November 9th \| nabutters

Re: When a parent goes away

this is great advice,,,thanks for sharing

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	November 8th \| spinnychic

Re: When a parent goes away

What a great article, I think this can also be applied to grandparents that dont get alot of time with their grandchildren, at least it helps keep them up to date....

Cheers Spinnychic

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	November 8th \| hmack79

Re: When a parent goes away

I'm an army wife too - there is some great tips in here! Our little man has just turned one and his father has being away for most of that time. I video recorded hubby reading stories before he first went away and would regularly play them - initally so bub would be hearing Daddy's voice but now he recognises the images too. I am going to print your advice and put it away for when bub is big enough to do this kind of stuff! Thanks.

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	November 5th \| purplecupcake

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wow geat peice, it's awsome to hear that you and you husband take so much time to remind your kids how important they aare to you both. CONGRAT"S.

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	November 4th \| Skye1

Re: When a parent goes away

it's great info im new to the whole defense thing plus our child will have ongoing medical issues through his life so there are some great tips for both dad and son i can use to make things less unplesant.

Thankyou

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	October 27th \| Glenda51

Re: When a parent goes away

That's some great advice!!

With my family, we would continue, as if he was there, trusting in God everyday in prayer!!

Take care! God bless!

Glenda51

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	October 24th \| exquisite-flower

Re: When a parent goes away

Great advice, love it all

We do this even with my family - loads of photos to remember the times together, the people we will see again one day soon but just not on a regular basis.

Peace
EF.x

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	October 3rd \| joeanne

Re: When a parent goes away

This is great idea. My other half use to work away all the time being in trucks. But not any more he now does local. Its much better for us.

Joeanne

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| taniagirly

Re: When a parent goes away

I like this advice. I'm going to try the book recording and scrapbook ideas for sure! :) its hard cos we also have a baby and he always seems to do things when hubby is away - like learning to roll over etc.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| PHOENIX

Re: When a parent goes away

great Article,
My Partner is currently working 25days at a time away and only 3 at home. My eldest makes daddy a picture or something at kindy the day we go to the airport to pick him up. My youngest doesn't notice that much but does love being able to sneak into my bed at night without me knowing he's doing it (I wake up in the morning and he's there!)
My partner takes photos of where he is which the kids love

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| FremantleDocker

Re: When a parent goes away

Great advice. Loved reading it.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| Keren

Re: When a parent goes away

Great advice! My partner is a shearer so is away an awful lot. Every night when I am putting Blake to bed I tell him that Daddy and Mummy love him very very very much. When Blake is older we will definitely do the letters. That is a fabulous way of letting Daddy know what has been going on.

I stick to the normal routine when Dale is home. It does make life sooooo much easier and it doesn't put Blake out as he knows what is happening. He starting to sense now when Daddy has to go away so he does become a bit clingy.

One thing I think we have to remember is that although it is hard for us on the homefront, it is hard for our partners having to be away from those they love.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| bittenbythelovebug

Re: When a parent goes away

Excellent advice !!

Tracey

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| cazza

Re: When a parent goes away

what a gorgeous idea and so i bet that some guys would love that as they do seem to miss out on heaps while they work...

i take my hat of to you mums that have hubbies in the army, as it must be hard for you all at times...

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| emmie

Re: When a parent goes away

great article

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| July 2007 \| nell18-3

Re: When a parent goes away

Great article
This is so lovely that you go to so much effort for the children and their dad who misses out.
Gotta say it was a bit sad reading for me made me see just how hard it must have been for my boys growing up, their dad worked away a lot and every time he came home, they would run to greet him only to be pushed away as he was tired!!!!! He would hardly speak to them on the phone and in the end when he did come home after being away all week the boys didn't bother going to greet him, he noticed this and they were then in trouble!!!!! Go figure. Thankfully those days are over for me and the boys

Well done for the effort you put into keeping your family strong
xxx

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