Expectations too high

I work with a lady who is a plan ahead chic.  She is due in September with her first baby, has spent $10,500 on nursery furniture, $3,500 on matching nursery accessories from the KidsLine Malawi range, she's bought everything, the cot sheets, cot bumper, wall border, lamp, can't remember what else there was but she's bought it all from Malawi, and the furniture is all matching heavy wood furniture.  The baby will be breastfed for 2 weeks, then breast and formula for the following week, then entirely on formula thereafter.  She will not breastfeed past the first month that's a definate.  He'll be happily going with his grandparents from the time he's 2 weeks old so her hubby and herself can go out to restaraunts and movies together 3 nights a week as they do now.  He'll be in daycare from 6 weeks, she goes back to work at 13 weeks.  That may all be possible for her.  But get this right, he will never scream for attention, he will be a placid baby who feeds and sleeps perfectly, he will be rolling over by 4 months, crawling by 6, sitting up by 8, and walking by 12 months.  He won't be one of the lazy ones because she thinks that the babies who do these things later than this have lazy parents who don't encourage milestones to be met.  These are the things I'm worried about.  She will quite possibly go through major depression if he's a screamer, or just less than perfect with his feeding and sleeping patterns, she may feel like a failure if he reaches milestones a little later.  Oh, and he will be toilet trained shortly after his first birthday because if they can walk, they can walk to the potty! She's been in childcare for 3 years now, surely she can see that some kids are just not ready for it.  Some are, mine was stripping her nappy off prior to doing a wee because she hated wet nappies.  But I thought they had to be around 2, and she was just 13 months.  They are all different, and the books I read showed a range of ages when they did things.  Like it said that babies roll over usually between 8 weeks and 9 months.  That's a huge range, but all babies who do it between those ages are totally normal.  I think that's what people need to look at more.  It's ok if the baby isn't walking by 12 months, because 12 months is just the average age for walking, not the magical age when they all get up to walk.  I know of just 1 child who walked on her first birthday, the rest have done it any time from 8 months to 18 months.  All happy, normal kids who reached their milestones at different ages.

No not really as my sister inlaw was a very organized woman and had very high expectations of herself and her baby,she now struggles very much as a mother and a wife and is suffering PND ,I just want parents to be aware that we can have all the knowledge but when baby actually comes and we are confronted with some situations that best lession is actually experience.Until you are a parent we dont all really know how we are actually know how we are going to cope as a mother.So please dont take my advice as being for you but for any expecting woman.

                                                       Cham