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Goal Setting for Kids - 2 Ways to Create Winning Feelings

JeanTracy by JeanTracy Talking Back(August 2007) (rank 48th)
 

Goal Setting for Kids – 2 Ways to Create Winning Feelings

Healthy character building teaches children to choose their thoughts. Feelings can be chosen too. Inside you'll find 2 ways to help your kids choose winning feelings and build character too.

 Goal Setting for Kids

- With Feelings of Joy and Enthusiasm:

"When we accept tough jobs as a challenge. . . and wade into them with joy and enthusiasm, miracles can happen." - Arland Gilbert

Children become winners when they approach life with joy and enthusiasm too. But when children's spirits are down, they don't feel like trying. Goal setting offers them a way to learn the magic of optimism. Here are two ways you can help them.

Parenting Tips - 2 Character Building Ways to Create Winning Feelings:

Let's say your Brad loves soccer but he's an average player. His last practice was a disaster. He's told you that he'll be sitting on the sidelines this season. Now he mopes around the house. Your heart goes out to him. You ask him if he'd like a way to create winning feelings. He smiles. Here's the next step:

First Character Building Way to Create Winning Feelings - Pick it:

Ask him to pick the feeling he needs to be a better soccer player. If he doesn't know, give him a choice of feelings to pick from. Perhaps you suggest energetic, determined, and enthusiastic. Brad says he likes focused better. You're not sure that's a feeling word. To Brad it is, so use his word. His word means something to him and that's just what you want.

Second Character Building Way to Create Winning Feelings - Feel it:

Tell Brad to imagine running toward the ball. Then tell him to feel what it's like to focus on running toward the ball. This may take some time. He'll probably need to close his eyes to get the feeling right.

When Brad feels his chosen feeling, tell him to practice feeling it every night before he falls asleep and each morning before he rises.

Goal Setting Summary:

Goal setting with the right feelings helps your child learn a winning skill for life. Just remember to have him pick the feeling he wants and then feel it. You'll be teaching him to experience the joy and enthusiasm of tackling a challenge. In short, you'll be showing him how to be a winner. You'll be building character too.

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sealsista72
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | sealsista72
Re: Goal Setting for Kids - 2 Ways to Create Winning Feelings
My 11, soon to be 12 year old son does a lot of visualizing to make himself feel more positive in obtaining a goal or task and it's amazing how many times he has come out on top!!! I think it's thanks to him that I have been more positive in my own life the past few months.  Positive thinking has amazing power and if you believe in  yourself, you can do just about anything.

Great article


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      JeanTracy
August 2007 | JeanTracy
Re: Goal Setting for Kids - 2 Ways to Create Winning Feelings

Dear Sealsista,

Wow! I'd love to hear more about your son's visualizing and his successes. It's great to know he has a winning attitude. Thanks for sharing

Warmly,

Jean



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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Goal Setting for Kids - 2 Ways to Create Winning Feelings
I think that imagery, and emotion are very important ways to help kids imagine how they will feel when they want to achieve their goals. 

However they also need to work out a strategy along with this, that will help them to achieve that image and feeling in real life, and then as parents we can help them work toward achieving that goal. 


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      JeanTracy
August 2007 | JeanTracy
Re: Goal Setting for Kids - 2 Ways to Create Winning Feelings

Dear Llmunchkin,

Thank you for your comments. I'd like to hear more about the kind of strategy that would help you as a parent to help your child achieve goals. 

I'm guessing you might mean practice, practice, practice but I'm not sure. If you do, by all means, whether it's an oral book report, playing soccer, or something else, practicing the goal and using imagery with emotions go hand in hand.

Let me know.

Warmly,

Jean 



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