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A question was asked of what people thought a good marriage was in Q & A so I answered then it got a little long so I thought I would put it in advice,advice on how to make a marriage /relationship work .I do not claim to be any kind
of marriage counciler but I am only going on what my mother has told me after 42 yrs of marriage for her and my father and also my experience of being a wife and mother in a marriage for 15 yrs.
Trust -trust is a biggest thing in marriage or any relationship and if you dont have trust well alot of the time it can end in disaster.
Communication - you have to talk to each other and learn not to bottle things up, and talk through problems without it being a great big debate or arguement ( I learnt this one early in our relationship).
Commitment-both parties must be committed to their marriage to make it work .
Appreciation -you have to let your partner know how much you appreciate them for all that they do and say and vice versa.
Love - well of course there has to be love because without love I wouldnt really call it a marriage rather then a mutual decision to be friendly for the childrens sake(my views only)My mother has always said while one still loves there is always hope and that if at the same time you both dont love the other partner well then your in trouble then.
Hard work - A good marriage is hard work ,I would say that no marriage is perfect and we all have our ups and downs,and that financial decisions are made together and others in dealing with children that you discuss your punishment and dicipline are dealt with together or at least discussed together , in all if you follow most of these guidelines you can get through any hurdle.
Well for me I have been married for 15 yrs and been with my husband since I was 17 ,so we have been together for 18 yrs this month.Well I would definately not say my marriage is perfect as like every married couple we have our little hurdles along the way ,like the one we got thrown this yr with finding out my husband has a 17 yr old daughter(her mother was 5 months pregnant with her when he met me but luckily I was informed of the possability after about a month of us being together and another curved ball his daughter is now pregnant.We have so far gotten through these hurdles and I am sure we will continue to come through them fine.
So love, trust,commitment,appreciation ,hard work,and to be able to talk to each other are the fundimentals of marriage.
Cham
(August 2007) (
Hi Cham,
but I love reading experiences such as yours
