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Montessori - the trials of a trial

thehardyards by thehardyards Talking(August 2007) (rank 307th)
My daughter is towards the end of a one month trial at a Montessori School.

When we first agreed to the trial, I thought that it was a perfect idea. Letting her try it out, before we committed. However, I didn't plan on her loving it there, making friends
and feeling for the first time that she truly belonged.

With only 7 hours to go until the end of the trial, my little girl has left for school crying. She can't take the pressure anymore. She doesn't "want to be there all day to be told not to come back"  in her own words. Kids crack under pressure too, and today it was just too much.

Seeing her like this makes me feel sick. Guilty. Protective.

I want to go to wherever she is right now, bundle her into the car and take her home. Tell her it will be okay. Promise that she won't be going back to her old school where she was ridiculed for being different. I want to give her a straight answer. I want her to know that she tried as hard as she could.

I love the Montessori philosophy. But I can't help thinking that putting us in this position really has gone a little bit against what I believed was the whole point of why we sent our daughter there. To build her confidence, self esteem and to help her to learn in a stress free environment.

My advice - Think long and hard before agreeing to a trial. As much as you want your child to attend a Montessori school. think about the pressure that your child will be under, and whether that is worth it.

We find out at 3pm whether she will be a Montessorian. I will keep you posted.

Please feel free to offer advice. I need it.
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mcm
January 2008 | mcm
Re: Montessori - the trials of a trial
Hope her heartache in the short term will be rewarded in the long term.


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WinnierooPooh
3.00 (Average) | January 2008 | WinnierooPooh
Re: Montessori - the trials of a trial

Hmm, call me slow on the practicalities, but a trial without a guaranteed place at the end of it seems to me an abuse of a childs emotions. Surely if the child had not taken too or settled in the enviroment, then the child would not feel too angsty about leaving. If the child had settled, then to say we now have to see if we want you, goes againt the montessori philosophy. Personaly I would worry about the ethos that particular school was practicing, if that is their admission strategy. Thankyou for the insight.

Luv. Winnie.xx

 



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Izzy
December 2007 | Izzy
Re: Montessori - the trials of a trial

I agree. I think kids are not very flexible, that's why we establish routines. So to put them through something that is short lived may backfire.

Thanks for sharing your experience.



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MummaBear
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | MummaBear
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My daughter's daycare centre has a Montessory style of teaching.  It's fantastic, she loves it.  I would recommend it although we don't have any Montessory schools where we live, it will end when she leaves the daycare centre unfortunately.  I love the idea of it, it fits in perfectly with my parenting style so for us it's worked out really well, she is loving it.


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blackwidowkate
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | blackwidowkate
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Hi
I so wish we had a montessori school near us for my son....he would have done so well in one
They are so good and cater to how the child learns rather than forcing them to learn stuff when they are not ready. 
We are tossing up a Montesori day care for Jalan but still have a long way to go before we can allow anyone else to look after her
Hope it all works out for her
Luv Deb


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injenuity
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | injenuity
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Why is it just a trial?  Did you not intend to send her there?  My daughter is 6 1/2 and will be starting her 3rd year of Montessori this year.  I am an educator and thought for sure I would send my children through the public school system.  I never thought I would accept an alternative teaching structure, but it has been wonderful for her.  Please let me know if you want to talk more about it.  I hope she gets to continue, if it is something that works for her.


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      thehardyards
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | thehardyards
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When a child has already been in a mainstream school, they need to enter into Montessori on a trial basis for one month. If it goes well, they then stay on for the remainder of the term. At the end of the term, the child is then considered for a place if the trial has worked out.

Sophie has been accepted for the rest of the month! But it is still going to be hard


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           injenuity
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | injenuity
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That's great that she was accepted.  Why will it be hard?  Does she have to go back?  That must be so frustrating.  I know I struggle every year wondering where to put Ivy.  It is not an easy decision.  She's in a private school, so I didn't have to worry about her being accepted.  I hope Sophie doesn't have to go back to a place she hates!


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