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Hi all....Thought It was high time I wrote another article to express my thoughts on something that is really close to my heart right now...This is also close to alot of my friends with teenagers hearts right now too....Let me ask you all a question...Is it possible to love your teenager but not like them at all??? Let me answer this question for you...My answer is a big fat YES without a doubt...
I was talking to a dear friend of mine the other day and we were talking about our teenagers as we both have just recently gone through arguments with them and another drama again...And we came to this conclusion...YES it is normal to love your child but to not like them...
Sit back and think of it this way...If you teenager was just a person on the street or someone you were not related to would you even talk to them? Would they be the type of person you wanted to be around? I know there is some good teens out there and some parents are nodding their heads right now but I also know there will be some out there that are saying NO they would not want to know them...
While having a conversation with my mother the other day I said to her I love my son dearly but you know I really do not like the person he is sometimes...Thinking that she would say to me that I really need to work on feeling this way it is wrong to think like this but you know what she said...Angie...I spent most of your teenage years not liking you at all...I loved you to bits you are my daughter but Hunni I hated those teenage years with you...Even though I was a little taken back I really really do understand her now...Without a doubt I understand her...
So this is to all you parents of teenagers who are going through this stage and thinking you are a bad parent because you are not really liking them right now...Don't panic you are not the only one...20 years ago my mum was doing it with me and now I am doing it with my son and I know alot of my friends are feeling this way with their teens...
I have decided all by myself that having children and raising them before the teenage years is the easy part...Having a teenager has probably aged me about 10 years hehe...I have also decided that my Mum is my hero because how she survived raising me I will never know LOL....So my advice to all parents of teenagers is sit back and buckle yourself in for the ride of your life but also believe that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel...I am just to scared of what is around the corner to open my eyes to see it yet hehe....
Have fun with the teenage years everyone and take them well with a little smile on your face as you know that one day you too will be the grandparent sitting back watching them live through the teenage years...That is my only sanity saver right now....
Thanks for reading and have a great day...Oh and smile it will make the teenagers wonder what you are up to....
Cheers
Angie
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Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
There are several times that I love my children but because of they way they are acting, I don't like them. I don't think you have to like your children as long as you love them with your heart. I know there are times when my kids tell me they don't like me, and I tell them that is just fine, it doesn't hurt my feelings, because I know they love me.
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
My mother put a curse on me
She told me all the time when I was a young girl that she hoped I would have a child just like me
I do and he is my oldest
sometimes I laugh in my mind at the things he says remembering I was just like that and then remembering I should call and appologize to my mother AGAIN
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
I'm sure that pretty often my mom feels the same thing... But I know she loves me...
Ohh by the way...your boy seems a very nice guy...Aidan..(he's very cute).He and your other children should know that their mom rocks! With respect, Bry
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
Great article Angie! Give me 10 years and I'll know exactly what you mean, Im SURE! Actually, there are times I feel like this with my 4 year old. I hope that's normal too? Must be, Im sure Im a normal mum, hehe!
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So true my hair is greying everyday. I just pray he makes it through these years. I think being a mother of a teenager is just not my forte and I have to answer no to liking my son right now, but I do love him and that is what keeps me going. Great article.
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
i have no idea about this as i am yet to experience the teenage yrs (gimme about 11-12 yrs) with emily but i do know that i was a terrible teen after the age of 15 and i honestly think that my nan felt the same as the article is saying!
This i believe with many is natural.
great article angie.
Mwa
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
sucha great article angie my mother used to say to me when i was younger and was running away from home she used to tell me that she hated me but yet she loves me well she was lying but its very true
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
I know exactly what you are saying Angie
I love my oldest son but I do not like him, and I hate what he is done
But he is my son and I love him
Great article Angie
Fantastic to see you writing YAY!!!!
xxx
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
That is so great that you've written that. It echoes what my mum was saying 3 years ago when my brother was 15 and a right little terror. She loved him with all her heart, would have died for him, but she far from liked him lol. My god mother said to her son, then 16 and behaving badly, "Is it too late to have an abortion?" but of course she said while she hugged him tight. Great article.
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
I know exactly how you feel. Luckily for me my teens have been good so far to me, and really well behaved and they respect me. Yeah, we have arguements, but soon make up etc. They're good kids really. Just been blessed with great kids even if they are teens
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
Hi Ang,
This article is soooooooooooooo true . . . I know that if i was to meet my teen in town and was not her mum I would frown and probably just walk away . .
But she is my daughter and I love her very much, sadly I also don't like her. My only hope is that she matures into the person that I know she can be and the person that I know she is deep deep down inside . . .
Thanks so much for writing this as it's a sensitive subject for most of us mums with teens.
Re: I love my teenager, Of course I do...But you know what...I do not really like them right now...
I have to admit that I really do not like my teenager. If I were at a BBQ and she were not my daughter, I would probably be doing alot of eyebrow raising at her. I cannot stand her most of the time. She drives me mad, and confuses me. But I have to love her and give her the best of everything.
Yes it is possible to love and hate at the same time.
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