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Telling your children the truth always |
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I've always told my children the truth, and alway open with them, and i also fantasice with them with like the easter bunny, santa etc. When they've found out that they're not real, they come to me really upset, and dissapointed at me saying, " You've never lies to us,  and say that you never will mum, but why did you like about the Easter bunny for? " I say, i didn't lie as such, the Easter Bunny is just a fantasy, and can be a dream too. I"m not lieing to about the Easter Bunny or Santa, as they were real once. We would argue that they weren't real, until we all would sit down ( the older children etc ) and explain to them what we searched up on the net etc, and they get a better understanding of things.
I don't like lieing to my children, and i never will. I only do this for them so they're happy etc. I would like my children to trust me and be able to come to me if they need to. I don't want them to betray my trust or anything like that, and it's hard sometimes to explain something like this to them and it breaks my heart sometimes when they find out from other children that somethings not real, and they are nasty about it.
I try my best to tell them that these things like Santa etc were real when they were alive and the legend and fantasy has just continued on as it's a great tradition not to break and it brings so much joy and happiness to so many children around the world.
So basically, what i'm trying to say it, always be truthfull about this kind of stuff, or anything and everything with your children. They deserve it. But you can always tell them the truth, and leave bits out, so they don't get hurt in the process.
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Re: Telling your children the truth always
my daughter,seven,is asking about santa and fairies etc. So to be honest ,as I always try to be,I told her that in real life they are just a bit of history,myths and legends. But I would hate to think that a fairie would die because I did not believe.Or that people would think less about giving because they dont believe in santa.So for me I will always have hope and belief in both. She told me she too would always believe in fairies,no matter what her friends said. I asked her about santa,and bless her,she said she had to believe in santa because she new it was,daddy. Great Advice there,thanks.Winnie
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Re: Telling your children the truth always
It is truly a wonderful gift we give to our kids by the fantasy. My dear son, just 11, caught me trying to get under his pillow for a tooth fairy deposit....."Mom what are you doing" when he was sound asleep! I told him I was check under his pillow as I'd heard a sound. Later the next day, I did explain to him that "mommy was the tooth fairy....thought for a moment, and mommy is the Easter bunny too........No Way! Ya Way....any how we had a good laugh together. I told him Mommy tooth fairy would still come and so would mommy Easter bunny. I did not say anything about Christmas.....however I hope the "idea" will get into his head with out me telling him out right. As he is entering the middle school years, I thought it time....despite being special needs, and in special education, I'd rather he heard it from me than from another child.
I have lied to my son, as a way of protecting him from the truth and painful experiences with his father. Making the decision to not continue our relationship, his father departed his life for several years. He made some attempts of visits, now only once a year, however he does e-mail John. I try my very best to not say anything bad about his father, and encourage anytype of relationship. Over the years, the loving lies, have finally become a few truths, and for this I'd lie again to protect John and his father's relationship.
Take care, Simba1
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Re: Telling your children the truth always
It is truly a wonderful gift we give to our kids by the fantasy. My dear son, just 11, caught me trying to get under his pillow for a tooth fairy deposit....."Mom what are you doing" when he was sound asleep! I told him I was check under his pillow as I'd heard a sound. Later the next day, I did explain to him that "mommy was the tooth fairy....thought for a moment, and mommy is the Easter bunny too........No Way! Ya Way....any how we had a good laugh together, and I told him Mommy tooth fairy would still come and so would mommy Easter bunny. I did not say anything about Christmas.....however I hope the "idea" will get into his head with out me telling him out right.
I have lied to my son, as a way of protecting him from the truth and painful experiences with his father. Making the decision to not continue our relationship, his father departed his life for several years. He made some attempts of visits, now only once a year, however he does e-mail John. I try my very best to not say anything bad about his father, and encourage anytype of relationship. Over the years, the loving lies, have finally become a few truths, and for this I'd lie again to protect John and his father's relationship.
Take care, Simba1
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