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ALL mums need extra hugs |
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Anonymous Author (September 2007) |
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Now im not sure if this is advice or not but Im gonna write it anyway.
heres the background for this advice -
I remember being a new mum, alone at home while my partner was at work and feeling jelouse of him being at work? I bet im not the only one. I know deep down I was wrong ti feel that way but I did, when bub wouldnt stop crying or when relatives were telling me how to do my job, i just envyed him for being at work, and then when he injured his back and couldnt help me out at home with bub i felt my jelousy growing. I know its silly and not his fault but hey I wasn't coping with being a new mum as good as i was making out to every one. noone noticed how depressed i was getting because i was so determined not to FAIL that i put on a huge front. looking back I wish i had realised asking for help was not FAILING at all!!!!
Now one of my bestest friend is a new mum and I have noticed these same problems with her and her partner, I asked her about how she was coping and the typical responce " i love being a mum" came, now i do not doubt for 1 second that isnt tru but i could tell she was struggling emotionaly with this new lifestyle. I explained how i felt and all the emotions i went thru to her and she opened up and said that yes she was feeling depressed and needed an extra hug here and there.
My advice is if u notice some one is down or blue, give them an extra hug or two. It goes along way to know your not the only one that has struggles with being a new mum, whch is why i love minti so much.
Whn someone you know or you yourself is depressed you should seek proffesional help even if you think its only minor, you deserve to feel the best you can and you are not failing by admiting to feeling the way alot, and i mean alot of new mums and new dads feel. so please for your own and your familys sake talk to someone . Ang offer "free hugs" to people you see that are a bit sad cos you will make their day, and inside you'll feel great too.
thanks.
