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I caught my 3 year old son this morning playing with his penis. Now as an adult my first reaction was he is just experimenting with his body, you know , checking it out. Now instead of freaking out and going
"Oh my God you cant play with
that, put it away"
and making my child ashamed of his own body. I asked him to come with me I wanted to talk to him in private( he was in the loungeroom in front of his sisters). I took him to his bedroom and explained that it is okay to play with his penis, just not in the loungeroom in front of his sisters.
His reaction was 'Okay mummy I will just look at my penis in here".
If I had of freaked out I would have been conditioning him that it is not okay for him to touch his body.
We not only do this type of conditioning with our children's bodies, we do it on all different levels, eg, when we are toddlers and learning new experiences and we pick up some money and put it in our mouths what is the first thing our parents say to us
YUCK TAKE THAT OUT OF YOUR MOUTH, SPIT IT OUT NOW!
As a child you do not realise that your parent is worried that you will choke on the money instead it is conditioned into you that money is yucky and you shouldnt be touching it, so get rid of it fast.
There are plenty more examples like these simple little things that we say to our kids and do not realise as adults how we are affecting as kids when they turn into adults, we need to think about what we say and how we react with our kids for them to grow up into the kids we want them to be,
caring, loving, friendly, respectful, wise, thinking, and the list goes on adults
Whether you think about it on a conscious level or not we(parents) condition our children every day, we have the biggest influence in their life.
Do it justice.
(September 2007) (
