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Teaching Please And Thank You...(THE MAGIC WORDS)...

Jessgore by Jessgore Young Parent(September 2007) (rank 6th)

My son is two years old now, and knows his please and thank you.. Ok on occasions he does forget but he is only 2….

 Anyway all we did was every time we handed him something before we gave it to him we’d  say the word please, and when he took what ever it was from us we’d say thank you...

 Until one day we changed from saying please to asking him what do you say??????

 A few times after we asked the question we had to say we say Please as a little reminder but he always repeated after us…

It did not take him long before he realized and now he’ll ask for things with a please.. He still forgets the thank you on occasions and if he does we ask “What do you say after” and he says Merci…

 So all in all at the moment we have a very polite child who knows his please and thank yous..

 You just need to be persistent…

 

And sometimes the bigger kids tend to forget as well.. So for our step daughter who stays with us ever second week she tends to forget a fair bit.. So automatically if we don't hear the word please at the end of a question when she is asking for something it is an automatic NO.... She will look dazed and confused for a bit wondering why we won't let her have something so simple... But then she will realize that she has forgotten the magic word... And will start saying the please and thank you again...

Good luck with the magic word... :)
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Frontier
5.00 (Excellent) | March 11th | Frontier
Re: Teaching Please And Thank You...(THE MAGIC WORDS)...

Highlighting when they do this in a positive way reinforces the behavior and sometimes they catch you out when you forget .



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merlin0903
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | merlin0903
Re: Teaching Please And Thank You...(THE MAGIC WORDS)...

 

this is great advice jess well done, we are trying to teach charlie this at the moment and he is getting really good at saying thank you but we need to work a little more on the please but he'll get there in the end,

hugs and kisses



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      Jessgore
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | Jessgore
Re: Teaching Please And Thank You...(THE MAGIC WORDS)...
thank you... It has been interesting.. Only because he has had to learn it in two languages.. He was pretty quick and has decided to take the English over the French on this one because it is much easier to say.. And quicker to get what he wants...  LOL 


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Izzy
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | Izzy
Re: Teaching Please And Thank You...(THE MAGIC WORDS)...

Great! It is never too early to teach please and thank you. I've done this with my son even before he could talk. I say please and thank you whenever it's appropriate, even to him. When he got old enough to talk, I made him say these words whenever possible. At one time, my father in law told me that he appreciates that I was making my son say thank you to him, and that it must be frustrating to me when I have to make him say it (this was between 1 1/2 - 2 years old). I told him that I wasn't frustrated because at that time, it was still a teaching process.

Then one day, it just happens. He says please and thank you without being asked to do so.  Actually, he says "pease" and "choo choo".



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Domestic-warrior
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | Domestic-warrior
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
It seems to be lots of reminding them doesn't it?!  And of course children learn what they live. Thanks Julie


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Domestic-warrior
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | Domestic-warrior
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
It seems to be lots of reminding doesn't it.  And of course children learn what they live.  Thanks Julie


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winja
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | winja
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
great advice, ppl often comment on my daughters politeness. funny though that when she was about 2 everyone seemed to crack up laughing when she said your welcome to them.......apparently its cute and funny but very old fashioned? i still say it when shes says thankyou to me but im disgusted that not many other children in our neighbourhood use their manners to the point where my child gets a bit embarrased becasue they make fun of her.


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Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | Arna
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
Great article.  We do the same and it works.  Even our 18 month old is learning it too!


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ellamia
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | ellamia
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
Great article ill be teaching mine good manners.

Love Kelly


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janicepovey
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | janicepovey
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...

There is nothing nicer, than  to hear a child with good manners. Well done Jess.

Love  Janice xxxx



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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | Kellzacar
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...

I am a firm believer of the high importance of manners. I have always taught my children manners and its great when we are out and people comments on what lovely manners my children have.

Cheers Kellz


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yummymummyof3
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | yummymummyof3
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
My eldest is amazing, its just comes so naturally for him, guess with the first child we were more vigilant, then my daughter well she will say it if she can be bothered hmmm stubborn child, and my baby well he has no idea as yet but he is starting to say tankyou so thats a start, we did it the same way as you..... and now when I am asked for something and I don't get the please all I have to say is sorry whats the magic word.....  Great advice oh wise one x


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SamanthaKing
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | SamanthaKing
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
I am such a stickler for this and I will correct adults in the shop for it to, I know a nasty habit, but it is my number one pet hate.  But we did exactly as you said and sometimes my boys still forget.  So if my kids come and say "I want a drink" I say "Oh do you thanks so much for telling me that" and then they usually work out what is the right way to ask lol.


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FremantleDocker
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | FremantleDocker
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
I've always taught my children to say please and thankyou, and it's got them further than alot of children who don't use manners. I think manners are very important these days. It's a sign of respect.


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mumof2b
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | mumof2b
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...

Manners are number one in this house..........when you hear a child using their manners it speaks volumes!!!

Great article!!!

Amanda xxxxx



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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
It really is important to teach good manners, it shows respect for others.  I really believe that it is an example of your core behaviour as a parent as well - for if we use our manners, it is more likely that our children will too.  Jaydee has being saying ta since he was about 11mths old and he now differentiates between please and thank you (peese, tanku), and he can sign thank you as well.

As I said in your blog - well done, it is a great compliment to you as a parent when your kids use good manners.  It really is respectful, and you can tell by how good it makes other people feel when they do it.


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | cazza
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
Thankyou for a great article, and i alway make sure my children use their mannners, as i say to them, the way they speak reflects on  me.....

take care
love cazza


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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | nell18-3
Re: TEACHING PLEASE AND THANK YOU.... (THE MAGIC WORDS)...
I'm big on manners too and I still sometimes find myself reminding my 19 year old daughter LOL
But especially the boys I insist on please and thankyous
xxx


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