No-cry sleep solution vs. crying method

For every Mommy there comes a time when she can't stand more of sleepless nights and knows she needs to do something about her baby sleeping habits. You look on-line, in books, asks friends, your Mom.. What do you get? Many advices, and confusion. What to do? Many of us tries one by one hoping to find the one that will work.

Probably every Mommy went through crying-it-out method. We all can say: it is sooo hard to listen our baby cry. Heart is crying with them. I was crying with my baby and my husband was trying to comfort us both. I knew this method is not good for us. There has to be another way. Gentle way.

Somehow I came across a book written by Elizabeth Pantley " The No-Cry Sleep Solution". Invited by the title - I gave it a chance and started reading. This is what I have learned:

1) Many experts, like Dr. Paul M. Fleiss an Frederick Hodges - authors of a book "Sweet Dreams",Kate Allison Granju - author of "Attachment Parenting" and Dr William Sears - author of "Nighttime Parenting", are against cry-it-out method. They say crying baby is in distress and we shouldn't be ignoring it. It goes with physical changes in baby's body. Blood pressure and stress hormons level are rising.

2) Baby will eventually fall asleep but it is because his little body will be simply exhausted of the stressful situation.

3) We should learn basic sleep facts to understand what really is a problem here.

4) No-cry sleep method learns our babies a bedtime routine.

5) Unlike with babies o cry-it-out method , children with no-cry sleep solution will be able to go to sleep easier even if they are teething, sick or are in a different place for a night ( f.ex. during family vacation).

6) This is shocking but really convinced me: Elizabeth Pantley is citing Jean Liedloff - author of "The Continuum Concept" ( Addison-Wesley, 1977) where she describes a baby waking in the middle of the night and what a stressful feeling it experiences.

Elizabeth Pantley wrote the book having experiance with her own children and talking and helping other Moms. I recommend this book. At least to read it. It teaches a lot about sleeping habits and routine. It works for my baby.

I am not saying that everybody should use only this method. Every Mom will choose what she feels is best for her baby. This is how is should be.

If you have any questions or comments - feel free to ask me.