Pooeeeellllllllleeeeeeezzzzzz....doesn't pay to get the proverbial hair standing up...hurts the person who is angry more than the person who made the comment, more times than not!!! It is pointless to point fingers, because when one does, three more fingers are pointing back at the person.....one gets far more
with honey than vinegar....
Temps are flaring and flaming.....Take what you like and leave the rest! Tired of reading of hurt feelings, and people asking to be voted off.....today there is another...three days in a row now!!! Accusations, for heaven sake, put it into report, you will be heard, and the group administrators will get the message loud and clear! Posting in your blog is fine, for Venting......Posting in your lounge is fine for venting....if it is personal and there is not a timely response...Think Think Think...don't take it personally, as there are so many issues, people just might not have the time to write and respond to All posts, and Admin has been changing servers, dealing with their own issues at home....Lordy, sometimes patience goes a long way!!!
Been there done that: Maturity, communication, an apology and rectifications as the situation requires! I respect this gal a lot and she has taught me much!! I'm glad to write we get on quite nicely now and are friends to boot! It's about respect I think, for where the person is at the time. I found I had written something and realized I'd gone too far, I apologized to the person, removed the advice and I learned a really good lesson this is what life is about, being able to make a mistake, learn from the mistake and Move On, as an Adult.....
How I went too far: I've stepped on toes too! I did not use the person's name, I tried to get a response, quite wrong...If a person doesn't respond, don't go telling them in their minti mail.....although wanting to help, I unintentionally hurt and flamed the situation more. I chose to out myself, open my own closet, because I felt safe there. There did seem to be more personal posts and for that I'm truly grateful....I feel exposing my weakness gives me strength, as contained fears anger or pain continue the cycle of the same...forgiveness and acceptance are so important.
Very Painful Lives: When I read of the horror some of the gals here have been through...oh...my heart just cry's out in pain for them....it also shows me that being strong sometimes is not the right way....being weak and asking for help is strength building and goes much further than holding everything inside....hurts the mind and body and spirit......tender ego or strong ego.....we all got em.....I work in advocacy for human service "free" online, and in person using my experiences, and truly love to serve others to help them grow and move to a happier place in their lives....I can only give words....they do the real work, and that is what I love about Minti...the women here, no matter the age teach me something always
Touchy About a Subject, Feel Ignored, or Feel Being Voted Down: Once Again, Minti is to give and share experiences...this advice is An Opinion.... again....poooolllllllleeeezzzzzzz Watch how Your Opinions are Written....Critical or Informative and helpful..mean spirited or compassionate...Minti is not a contest or competition to have the cutest pics, cutest inserts with sparkles....Minti is to serve others as we have learned our own life lessons to make the road a bit smoother for another.
Have a great day! I'm sending out a virtural Trotting Bear to give all those who need a HUG, stop, step back, and Think is what I told my dear son many times, and continue to do so to help him not react on impulse or hurt feelings.
For the latest gal, please forgive me, I'm trying to respect your feelings, and at the same time, I don't want to see you go!!! I'm feeling frustration, and perhaps having written this, might save even one member from leaving. I feel very concerned about the latest of three days in a row. This frustration has prompted me to write this advice.
So for all mom's here at Minti~~~in the corners and around the bend, on all areas!
I'm sending You glitter pics, and a virtual bear to all those who are in need xxxxxx(((((HUG)))))xxxxxx
And If you know how to stop the Minti addiction, Please Minti Mail me as I'm having a serious problem...oppsa shoulda, coulda, probablya coulda hava puta thisa ina questiona, my bloga, Lounga, anonoma, or buta chossa advicea.......justa *hoota mea....and then have a good laugh as Laughter Is the Best Medicine!! Darn! came on here for just One Hour...now it's Two and A Half Hours.....
My alter egos (insert emotions did not come out so)... smiles, frowns, happy, angry, silly, goofy, dumb, smart, cool dude, beauty babe... heck whatever floats your boat... and keeps ya above the waters....gets u rolling on the floor....life is too short to to short...so dump the small stuff!!!Personally my favorite one is not here, it would be a ~~~Wide Mouth with a Big Fat Foot in IT~~~~Simba1, my other alter ego is sitting licking her chops~~~~~feeling much less frustrateda....
Take care!!! (Mary Louise)
