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The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

MrsMateos by MrsMateos Speaking(September 2007) (rank 204th)

Hi parents,

I saw today on the NSW related news about the horriable story of an expectant mother who waited over two hours to seek medical assistrance for pain which related to miscarriage.

I could ot believe it becuase 5 years ago a similar thing happened to me and for years I think back to that hidious experience but never had the guts to stand up or speak out against the "system"

I was 21 and 11 weeks pregnant to my partner, who I'm married to now. Anyway I was at work in Malvern, Melbourne and had some pain around 10am, this progressed and was so unbearable by lunch time I went to the local doctor. This doctor told me to go to emergancy immedialy becuase she said I shouldn't be in so much pain, I called my husband to collect me and we went to clayton hospital. The story you read today on the news is exactly what happened to us. I went to triage expecting some assistance....I was told to sit and wait...I thought I was dying and was screeming in pain, not one person saw me, offered advice or even gave a time frame we would be seen. In the mean time I started to bleed everywhere, all over the waiting area going back and forward to toilet, I sat on a towel we had in the back of the car, no painkillers or even a pad were offered and it was so embarrassing, I just kept waiting becuase I wasn't sure what was happening to me or if the baby had survived ...I wasn't seen until 5pm! that was 5 hours we waited and waited and when they took me through, I sat onto the wheelchair and blood was trailing me. In almost idential cirrcumstances, I too was waiting there and when the doctor can too see me I was still covered in blood and doc also was supprised to see me like that, after I got over the "fence" to the doctors the care was good, I stayed in overnight, of course I did have a miscarriage but I had already guessed that by this time.

Years have gone by and we have a little girl, but I think back to that and I can't believe if still happens 5 years later in this country.

My advice is...in my experience, this seams not to be so uncommon, if you feel strongly about your treatment you should speak out at all costs to get assistance, suffering in silence doesn't pay and chances are other people will be just as horriffed as you felt about your treatment.

You don't have to be the silent, nice guy when it comes to your health.

 

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RebandIsabelle
July 1st | RebandIsabelle
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

Its frightening to read how many people this has happened to.  My heart goes out to all of you!!



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pauline27
June 30th | pauline27
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

What an awful ordeal for you and to think you were in a hospital.You should have been a priority patient so pleased that you have alittle girl now



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MEGarcia
June 24th | MEGarcia
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

That is so horrible to loose a child in does circumstances is just something unhuman, but society today has no kind of charity for the suffering of others. why do they call it the ER, if you can die siting in the waiting room......it doesn't make any sence.......but I will pray for that young lady so that she can have comfort in the loss of her baby, I to had a miscarriage a long time ago and even though it was my 3rd pregnancy it still hurt me.......



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tania
May 31st | tania
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

Yes I'm also horrified it still happens a very close friend from years back had the same thing happen to her and there was this person in front of her that couldn't get in so this person went home and called an ambulance to come and they came and took her to the hospital and she was seen strate away how I know that was when she went in she asked this person how she got seen straight aaway so quick then she proceeded to tell get an ambulance. We need something to help this for not to happen for the future. Thankyou for your bravery of your story.



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      MotherofJWE
June 3rd | MotherofJWE
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

Praise the Lord - I have never had a miscarriage!  However a week or so after I found out I was pregnant, I started to bleed and was sent to the hospital to wait all day.  I remember my husband went to visit the library while I waited, and came bacw ith a book of baby names, but I wasn't interested.  I was scared I was losing my baby and I needed someone to give me reassurance as to what was going on and ASAP.  I was treated the whole time as though I was having a miscarriage, as though it happens it all the time, like its no different to having a period.  And not as though - I could be losing a baby here!!  A baby that I may not have met, but a baby with a soul and a baby whom I already love and care for.  Not to mention how scary the thought of a miscarriage is when you ahev no idea just what that is going to mean.  The hospital had no compassion whatsoever that I was not only in physical pain, but emotional pain.  Now that I have a healthy 7 month old boy, how dare they give me such false hope that my baby was dying, when he was perfectly healthy!  Certainly this emotional worry is not healthy for a pregnant woman



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golliwog78
May 21st | golliwog78
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

It's so touching that you have shared you story and shed light on the problem of Australia's health care system.  I couldn't agree more that something needs to be done and slowly but surely I think it is and has already slowly gotten better.  I have had 2 children and one miscarriage and guess what I work within the Dept of Health, I know that there are a lot of plans to better the health system, but as with anything this takes time.  We as Australian citizens need to continually voice our opinions and get people to listen...don't give up hope!!  I come from an Asian background and trust me when I say...Australia is very lucky, but improvements can always be continuing. 



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Juzzy
May 12th | Juzzy
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I will never go to clayton hospital, i have had too many bad experiences with them, their waiting times are completely redicilous.



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emmie
May 5th | emmie
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

that is terrible great article

Thanks for sharing

Emz xx



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Libby24
5.00 (Excellent) | January 7th | Libby24
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
this is such a sad story. i feel for you.

i am very moody when i go to the emergancy, i am up at the counter every half an hour seing where i am in the que. i HATE to wait.

i hope the medical proffesion do some reasearch into this and help us women more.


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mcm
5.00 (Excellent) | January 7th | mcm
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
Its awful.
I also had a miscarriage at hospital. Sadly the medical profession knows little about miscarriage.


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Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | January 7th | Arna
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
Our health care systems don't seem to care, not even if you are much further along.  I know with my first (successful pregnancy) I was really sick, to the point I could have died.  After being seen by the docs at hospital, I was told I would be going home.  I couldn't even stand and was still severely dehydrated.  I wasn't miscarrying, but could have at any time.

I've also been refused medical treatment when having a miscarriage, because I hadn't been seen by a doctor yet.  What?  I didn't need a quack telling me I was pregnant, my body behaving the way it was told me!

I hope that you can have more children and are being treated much better these days.


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KyAquarius
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | KyAquarius
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

Thank-you for sharing your story with us. How awfully heartbreaking for you lose your precious baby, my heart goes out to you.

It absolutely disgusts me how they treated you during this time. Having to wait all that time and not being seen by someone when you were in that much pain... Surely they have to realise what's going on and treat you with the care you need. Yes hospitals to get it right a lot of the time, but they can also get it so horribly wrong.

I found out I'd miscarried last week... I'm still grieving, its an awful thing to go through. I've been crying every day... Its helped me talking about it though. I also was disappointed in the care the hospitals gave me. Ridiculous that "we don't do ultrasounds after 4pm", and they couldn't even check my baby's heartbeat! Unfortunately our Baby Angel had already gone to heaven weeks earlier... If only we'd known. But still the process from beginning to end took five days, due to lack of equipment available at my Dr's surgery and at the hospital. And I fasted for over 16hours, waited in hospital for 6 of those hours to have the D&C, only to be told "we can't fit you in, go home, fast again til tomorrow morning". It was horrible.

So thank-you once again for sharing this, unfortunately this type of thing doesn't seem to be uncommon at all. Its heartbreaking.

Sending you an invite to my group now, catch up with you again, Kylie xo



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cheekymonkey
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | cheekymonkey
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

That's really scary stuff. I found t realy bizzare that they didn't send her straight to maternity ward of the hospital. I must say, although I had an award winning shitty birthing experience, I witnessed some great stuff too. At the hospital where I had grub they had a clinic where you could go without an appointment or on direction of your doctor if you were having any probs. Me a week overdue and out of this world blood presuure. But a lady came in who was 32 weeks gest and said she was feeling unwell. So they gave her a bed and a cuppa, then put the monitor on her tummy and told her they were just going to give her and examination as they thought she may be in early labour. So from behind the curtain we hear "darling, you're 6cm dialated, you are in labour." She didn't want to believe them because it was early, but they had a doctor there in 5 mins, called her hubby and they wheeled straight to theatre for a c-sect to save her little bubba.

While there's always going to be horror stories within hospitals, there are also amazingly good ones too.

I feel sorry for the wonderful (and sometimes very cranky) people who attend our hospitals...they (and the patients as wel) are victims of politcal bickering and coin counters.

it just sucks that lives have to be lost that never got a chance to shine.



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taniagirly
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | taniagirly
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
The health 'experts' can be so blase sometimes! I went into labour at 31 weeks pregnant while on holiday. I called my midwife who told me it was braxton hicks! I said I've had braxton hicks and this is not it, it was very painful with all the signs of labour. Because it was my first she dismissed me and said 'well if they get to 5 mins apart then go to the hospital.' I was on an island and the nearest hospital was about 2 hours away on the mainland! In the end the contractions came and went until finally a couple of days later I got home and told my mum. She called a local doctor who said to get straight to hospital for an assesment (my midwife didn't even give me an examination when I got back and called her!). So I went to hospital and the obstetrician found that I was 1 cm dilated and the plug was paper thin. Baby had moved right down into position for birth. She said that it had been early labour and that I was lucky it stopped on its own. Sometimes women get strong braxton hicks that help to get things ready for birth - but at 31 weeks this was not ok to ignore. I was kept in overnight and they if I had any more contractions they were ready to give steriods for the babys lungs. I changed midwife immediately and learned a lot from the experience. Go with your instincts and get a second opinion. Your health (and your babys) is important - don't worry who you might offend in the process of getting help.


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merlin0903
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | merlin0903
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

 

thank you so much for sharing your story with us and i am so sorry that you also had to go through that, as you know i too have had 2 miscarriages, but i didn't go through what you did, 

there is no way any female in Australia should have to experience this it is totally wrong! and i also agree with what Kellz and Lui are saying if you think you might be having one act crazy for sure as it might just get you the help you need

hugs and kisses



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
It's too true - dogs get treated better.  My little dog got hit by a car, and ran away... I alerted the vet that I would be bringing her straight in when I found her, and to be ready. 

When we did find her she was bleeding all over her face and labouring to breath (broken ribs).  I ran in ahead of my boyfriend who was carrying her to explain the situation... The little nursey chick said - wait in line we have a queue of people with appointments.

I turned around and yelled does anybody here with their little appointments mind if my 'F'ing dog who might be dying sees a bloody vet before yours gets vaccinated or whatever?  Then everyone yelled at the nurse who ran away to get a doctor...

You gotta act crazy to get any attention in this apathetic society (unfortunately).


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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | Kellzacar
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

It's so totally shameful and inhumane that any woman in Australia should have to go through a miscarriage in this way!!

Having suffered from several miscarriages in my attempts to have a family I can only shake my head in disgust at how you and other women have been treated . .  Maybe Lui is right, next time any female attends a hospital and suspects they may be losing their baby perhaps they should act insane to get proper medical treatment.

Cheers Kellz


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sluxton
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | sluxton
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

It's angering that anyone in Australia suffers in such an inhumane way.  We have the resources, money and the facilities to look after our people so much better but it's so hard to get the funds in the right place.  Thankyou for sharing your advice and your sad experience.  I'm sorry that you and anyone else could have suffered such a loss in this way.  Best wishes.  Sal



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winniesanders
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | winniesanders
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
I am so sad that you had to be put through that sort of ordeal. It is outragous in this day and age. I lost five bubs, and you never forget. It makes it harder when,they treat you so badly. Congratulations on having your little girl, a real joy. My GP gave me a sound bit of advice,when I was threatning my first miscarraige. She said never go to A&E, Go directly to a Matrenity Unit, where they will recognise the dangers associated with miscarraige. A&E are too complacent and tend to triage as for sprained ankle or finger. Inhumanity seems to be a growing affliction within the medical establishment. I think it should be standard practice,the world over that all issues with pregnancy should be dealt with at maternity units, and that all new mums be told to go there if in trouble. Best wishes. Winniex.


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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
Please accept my condolences for your loss, and the same to anyone else who has had to suffer in this way... Especially in a situation like this when you should have been cared for more appropriately.  I am glad you wrote this, because when I heard the story, I did wonder how many people had suffered needlessly in this way because of callous hospital staff.  I know they are understaffed, however it would seem to me an inhuman individual that could allow for something like this to happen under their nose.

This is information on the procedure for Triage Assessment in Australian and New Zealand hospitals - each patient is supposed to be assessed and given an ATS Category based on these recommendations - scroll down to see the scale. 

I am so disappointed that this happened at RNSH - Jaydee was born there and our prenatal, maternity, and post natal care was exemplary - with the exception of one prize cow of a temp nurse - however I proved easier to please than argue with.  I know that hospitals are under staffed, and education seems to be lacking too - that is why I grit my teeth whenever I see a few million dollars worth of fire works going up in smoke over the harbour every new year.  I would rather celebrate new life, hope and possibilities by providing the nation with the highest possible standards of care and education.

Stick it to the government - make then answerable... And give those idiots that were in A&E last night an infestation of cockroaches that can never die in their nether regions.


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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
PS - With a quick glance I would say that this case should at least have been treated within 30mins... Perhaps exhibiting psychotic behaviour would be the go - that gets treated within 10mins... Go figure!


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libbylincoln
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | libbylincoln
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

when i was losing my baby at 12 weeks gestation last year i was told she was dead and i was in a bad state of mind and carried her for a futher 5 days after being told but after all that time i started to bleed really bad and was taken to the hopsital by ambulance and i bleed all over my couch ,the concrete outside my house ,3 beds ,and it looked like a horror movie ,yet i waited 5 hours before i had the curet and was seen to properlly i wasent in pain yet they forced some kind of pain killer and they saw a bruise from a blood test i took 4 days prior casue my vains are invisible and they thought i was on drugs .

i was out of control and more scared after that and once they took the baby out they were really cold hearted like it did not matter .

this was at hobart hopital

 



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      MrsMateos
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | MrsMateos
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
I can only imagine how you felt at that time, scary and its worse they are so robotic about your procedure, idoits.


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jenjen
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | jenjen
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!

i am so sorry that you had that awful experience...it is when thing like this happen that make us to NOT WANT TO  GO TO emergency departments...you have given excellent advice.....and i am so happy for you that you had your baby girl...CONGRATULATIONS...

Take care  jenny



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Shellshell
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | Shellshell
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
Great advice

Sorry to hear you had to experience this.

I could not believe it when I heard this on the news this morning, how disgusting and ignorant the Emergency Dept was. NO ONE should have to experience this. SHAME ON THEM! My heart goes out to anyone else who has experienced this.

  Shelley


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michellei
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | michellei
Re: The miscarriage at hospital making news...happened to me too!
You health and well being are very important always insist to see someone if you need to or a second opinion.
Great advice.


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